You seem like a "fun" father.

A young teenager recently died in a hotel room after a drug overdose. The people around him didn’t even know he was in trouble, until it was too late. Unfortunately, this story is very common. However, that is a different story, because the people in question were not partners or friends, they were their mother and grandmother. The mother, who didn’t live with her son, told police she gave her drugs because she wanted to be a “fun weekend mom. “

I must admit that my first impulse is to judge this woman, after all, what kind of person would be selfish enough to give your child something that would destroy him, only to see you the same way he sees his friends?At the root, however, is the temptation that all parents face, though generally not to the extreme of illicit drug trafficking. We want our children to love us, love us, and many of us do when we ask them what they want and try. to fit them.

On a certain level.
The desire to be a father is praiseworthy; After all.
We must describe to ourselves the fatherhood of God; its family atmosphere is neither hard nor pleasant.
But full of joy; some parents interact with their children with such censorship and correction that they imitate the older brother of Jesus’ parable.
Not the joyful father who prepares a feast for the return of his son (Lk 15:11-32).
Some families consider themselves saints.
When they actually count their Sons.
That the kingdom of Christ is a tedious seminary of Pharisees.
Not the home of those who enjoy the favor and deliverance of their God (Lr 4:18-19).
If laughter and joy are not part of your family.
Something is wrong.

That said, the dominant desire to be one? Funny dad, he’s definitely selfish and against the gospel. Contemporary popular culture values young people as a source of wisdom and authenticity, but the Bible sees the issue differently: parents should cultivate the kind of wisdom that a child will need before they even understand the importance of these things. The Apostle Paul speaks in the same way to his son in ministry, turning him away from the passions of youth toward maturity (2 Timothy 2:22).

It is because of God’s fatherhood, God disciplines us and trains us for the future life that awaits us, this is not a sign that we are out of his protection, but a sign that He loves us and has a plan for our lives. lives (He 12:3-11). God does not give us everything we want in our immaturity. It’s not because he’s hostile to us, even if it seems to be the case right now. It is because He educates us to be heirs (Gal 4:1-7) Does he know what is best for us and is preparing us for the wedding?Not for the kind of food we call for now, but we’ll regret it later (He 12: 16-17).

As parents, we’ll never do it perfectly. Unlike the Father, we are neither completely holy nor omniscient; we will stumble in many ways and often we will not see what is best for our children in the long run, but that must be our goal.

The desire to be one? Not only is it crazy, it’s wrong. You may be able to prevent your children from temporarily rebelling against you, as long as they give in to their desires or what others do. However, your children will soon realize that you have no stronger vision for them than for themselves. If you educate them to see it as a way to satisfy their appetites, they will finally choose their appetites over you. Consider the sad example of the priest Eli, whose children took the fat from offerings ( 1 Sam 2:12-21); as an adult, his rebellion was his father’s great pain (1 Sam 4:16-18).

To discipline our children is not only to correct bad behavior, but to educate them about what should be loved and prioritized, it means to discipline to care more about what is more beneficial to them than to us, and that means seeing them not only accordingly. how they see us now, but how they will see us as elders on their own deathbed and, moreover, as individuals before the judge of Christ. This kind of selfless parenthood requires wisdom, patience, and willingness to be unpopular. . It will often be filled with joy; in others, however, you will have very little “pleasure. “

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You seem like a “fun” father.

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