By 2013, I was getting married to my wife. The summer before the ceremony I came across the TIME cover on the kitchen table of my future in-laws with the following title: When having everything is not having children Is the image of the young couple lying on the beach?An expression of the hedonism of our generation made me think a lot.
The history of TIME has portrayed the undeniable reality of young couples who want all the professional, personal and emotional achievements and therefore do not find time in their agendas to generate lives. stability that they deem appropriate, the couple may have already developed habits that are no longer compatible with children at home or, worse, the biological alarm has already been triggered and children may no longer be a possibility.
- I am a generation called millennia.
- People who have seen the millennium pass through adolescence.
- As children we receive from culture the unrestricted affirmation of our genius with the promise of a life full of great achievements.
- Adventures and discoveries.
- But the enchanted world promised to us does not prepare us enough for the harshness and sobriety of real life.
- We have limits.
- Time is not infinite.
- Life is not necessarily better when we do or achieve everything we want.
- In the frantic search for personal satisfaction.
- Our generation discovers that.
- In fact.
- It has become a slave of its own free will.
In real life, human beings exist to serve. The Danish philosopher Kierkegaard summed up: “The door to happiness opens only on the outside; That the opposing force ends up closing it even closer?Serving is a call to life!A more sublime way for a young couple to serve in the world than by raising young children?
My wife and I were always open to life, she got four months pregnant, that was the best thing for us. Children are a blessing in our lives because they remind us that we do not exist for ourselves, they also help us understand that I need to strengthen my faith to educate them in God’s ways in the face of a world full of uncertainty. of the Creator, I look at my children and recognize that they are loved, honoring and serving my wife that I will make them better people. They say you have to get to know your spouse well to finally have children. Once, a man of God said I want you to know your spouse better when he has to get up at 3 a. m. to change his diaper. I was right? It was when I saw the mother that my wife met even more the wonderful woman I married and I hope the opposite is true too.
It is not a normative text. Each couple knows their own reality, their intentions and their sincerity, but I can testify that when I look at the parents who have decided to have children to serve God, I always see them tired, but never repentant.
“The most extraordinary thing in the world is an ordinary man, an ordinary woman and her ordinary children?G. K. Chesterton