This is one of the great dilemmas for the pastor every Sunday Who should I talk to and for how long?Most shepherds are at the door after the service to greet those who leave; others stand at the front to invite people to come and talk to the pastor and ask questions about the sermon.
It is a game of constant juggling in which most shepherds feel that they fail most of the time.
- What adds to the madness is the person who aggressively pursues the pastor after the service and feels entitled to his attention for a long time; is the person who has a total lack of respect for those who wait patiently in line.
- That person is usually someone who comes from the street.
- Who knows nothing and who wants clothes.
- Food or money.
It might also be the member of your church who doesn’t choose the best time to discuss your marital problems with the pastor, but we still don’t want to miss opportunities to serve these people in need, especially if they are souls for whom we are responsible What can I do?Three suggestions:
You can go too far and not be disturbed by this kind of person, and that’s not true. No matter who they are, where they come from, or why they want to talk to the “pastor,” give them time to discover the basics about them and their needs. This will help you know how to proceed and eventually involve another leader.
After preaching and completing a very important ordination service in our church, a homeless woman quickly approached me and took the stage to talk to me before anyone else could contact me. He started telling me about all his problems, and there were many of them I needed serious help and if I had been there for two hours, I would have kept talking all the time.
One of our leaders realized what was going on and realized that this was not the best way for me to spend my time, as many were waiting to talk to me.
He realized someone could help him. Then this leader came and took the initiative to take him politely to someone else to help him, to train his leaders to realize and to intervene in those moments when people come to order food or clothes. The deacon who is better equipped than me to help them at the time is a great blessing to all involved.
If someone is upset about the decision you made at the members’ meeting earlier in the week and makes a scene and scolds you for it, find another pastor to come and help you deal with this difficult situation for you. The next person. Empower your pastors, deachonos, and other leaders to think so, be aware of what is happening, and discern you can intervene if necessary.
It’s hard to choose right now. That’s why most shepherds feel they’re failing, but what we can be sure of is that the most neglected sheep are the ones who don’t fight for their time and don’t line up to talk to you.
They don’t want to increase the queue and load for you
Be prepared to ask someone to make an appointment with you at the office that week to discuss the topic that will require a longer conversation than you can have on Sunday morning, this allows the pastor to prioritize searching for passive sheep that need your care.
That’s all. Keep in mind that these are just suggestions for further tarnishing the waters of this messy balance. The fact is that pastors must be thoughtful enough and have enough conversations so that we don’t allow our time to be dominated by someone. be good. Be good. But choose who you’re going to talk to and for how long. If you don’t choose, believe me, someone will choose for you.
By: Brian Croft, © Practical Shepherd. Website: Practicalshepherding. com. Translated with permission. Source: When does a pastor have to speak on Sunday morning and for how long?
Original: Who should the pastor speak to after the service and for how long?© Return to the Gospel. Website: voltemosaoevangelho. com All rights are reserved Translation: Paulo Reiss Junior Comment: Filipe Castelo Branco.