Because marriage is not my calling
At the age of 33, Bill converted to Christianity after having had sex with same-sex people for eleven years. As a new convert, she is very open to marrying a woman and even starting a family. Thirty years later, however, he remains single and has found divine contentment as a single man. Bill leads a life full of ministry and mentors men with experiences similar to his own.
- After years in the gay community.
- Mark also placed his faith in Christ.
- His new life as a Christian brought no sexual or romantic interest to the opposite sex.
- He was ready and happy to be single for the rest of his life.
- Assuming it was.
- Your only truly Christian option.
Mark became Andrea’s best friend, also a new disciple of Christ. She came out of a broken past with abusive boyfriends and even abortions. Because these relationships were toxic, he had decided to leave the court for later and for the time being focus on his relationship with God. The two felt safe together. Mark knew she didn’t want to go out with her and Andrea knew he wasn’t attracted to girls. His mutual love was deep but platonic.
After a while, Mark began noticing things about him that he had never noticed before. New feelings, both physical and emotional, have flourished. He developed enough courage and asked him to go out with him. After several months of dating, he proposed to go out with him. She. On the night of the wedding, he confessed to his new wife: “Honey, I can’t explain it. I’m not attracted to any other woman. I’m just attracted to you. “
Two men, two searches, two paths. Bill wanted to get married, but he’s still single today. Mark was single and happy, but now he’s married to Andrea. Sometimes God’s way is not what we expect or even what we want. For some it is to be single; for others, it’s marriage. However, for all the objective is the same, single or married, attracted by people of the same sex or of the opposite sex, holiness.
We live in a world of innumerable shades of gray, not just fifty. Ambiguity is harmless but disturbing openness to false teachings. Therefore, we must seize every opportunity to lovingly communicate biblical morality as expected and beautifully in black and white. , we cannot say that heterosexuality in all its forms is holy or the perfect norm of God.
Heterosexuality is defined as “relative to sexual intercourse between people of the opposite sex. “This is extremely broad and includes sinful behavior, such as a man who sleeps with several different women, a husband who cheats on his wife with another woman, and even the committed monogamous relationship of a cohabiting boyfriend and girlfriend.
However, some Christians consider these stories of “success”, people who are attracted to people of the same sex because they reach their “heterosexual potential” (Honte and loss of attachment, 24). The Bible, however, does not indiscriminately bless a variety of relationships with the opposite sex, whether incest (Genesis 19. 31-36), rape (Genesis 34. 2), prostitution (Lk 15. 30), adultery (Mt 14:3-4), or sex before marriage (John 4:16-18).
Just to say that heterosexuality is right? Without reservation, some may hear the implicit support of the sexual immorality mentioned above. Of course, not all heterosexual behaviors or relationships are guilty. The union between a husband and a wife is blessed by God. However, we must also recognize that heterosexuality is not synonymous with biblical marriage and says nothing about being single.
Heterosexual and homosexual terms come from secular anthropology, raising sexual desires as a legitimate way to categorize humanity Is this an ontological category that Christians should embrace?Are we, in fact, defined by our sexual desires and behaviors?
The world accepts heterosexual and homosexual terms in part because sexual desires and sexual expressions are of paramount importance to the unbelievers. The ideology proclaimed in our classrooms and on television screens is that sex and sexuality are inseparable, necessarily and essential aspects of who we are. Are.
Borrowing this artificial and ancestral category of heterosexuality to describe how God calls Christians to live loses his perfect standard of holiness. Moreover, the Bible does not fundamentally categorize humanity according to our sexual desires or any other desire for the case. a term that confuses and eclipses our true identity is reckless, and embracing a category so broad that it includes sinful behaviors must be totally rejected. It is irresponsible to cling to terminology that only causes confusion.
Instead of establishing secular categories, let’s look at what is biblical, what we need is a whole new category to represent God’s sexual ethics: holy sexuality, we classify in the wrong structure: heterosexuality, bisexuality, and homosexuality, it’s time to break this secular paradigm and embrace God’s vision of sexuality. The term holy sexuality simplifies and clarifies what would otherwise be a complex conversation.
Does holy sexuality have only two paths: individual chastity and fidelity in marriage?Just as God defines him as between husband and wife. Chastity is more than just abstaining from extramarital sex; transmits purity and holiness. Loyalty is more than maintaining chastity in marriage and avoiding illicit sex; conveys the alliance’s commitment.
I describe these two paths as “elections”. Celibacy, for many, is not an option. If you think about it, no one is born married, we’re all born single!Although some choose to stay single, it’s never our own choice.
Holy sexuality is neither new nor monumental. From Genesis to Revelation, only two paths align with God’s standard for sexual expression; If you are single, be sexually abstinent as you flee lustful desires; If you’re married, be sexually and emotionally faithful to your husband or wife of the opposite sex as you flee libidinous desires. We all endure together the same struggle for holy sexuality. Instead of determining how we should live, based on enduring models of erotic and romantic desires, God’s call to all humanity is holiness.
Before my conversion, I heard the message? Clear and clear: homosexuality is bad and heterosexuality is correct. If I wanted to become a Christian, until then it seemed to me that I should be sexually attracted to women, as if the more erotic women I wanted, the more I wanted to be a Christian man. Many Christians have mistakenly assumed that the main goal of someone like me is to stop or decrease their attraction to people of the same sex and to develop attraction to the other sex.
But what’s wrong with that? If a person wants to get married, wouldn’t it be nice to help them be sexually attracted to people of the opposite sex?But here’s the truth: the best way to prepare others for marriage is to help them look more like Jesus. The key to a successful marriage is not sexual desires, but union with Christ.
God commands us to be holy, because I am a saint?(Lev 11. 44-45; 19. 2; 20. 7; 1 P 1. 16). The biblical opposite of homosexuality is not heterosexuality, it is not the ultimate goal, but the opposite of homosexuality is holiness. In fact, the opposite of the fight against all sin is holiness.
Pious marriage and pious celibacy are two sides of the same coin, we will do well to stop focusing on each other, both are good. Holy sexuality, chastity in celibacy and fidelity in marriage are good news for all.