A few months ago I posted a question on my blog about an ethical dilemma faced by a woman who had just been engaged and who had just discovered that her fiancé had “constant battles with pornography. “He doesn’t know what to do or what to do, how to make sure he’s dealing with the problem in the best way. Here’s my answer:
Dear confused bride,
- A lot of women are watching? Diary of a passion?Or? Twilight? As a reference to the kind of man to marry.
- Instead.
- You should probably see “The Werewolf.
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Have you seen any of those old werewolf movies?You know, those where the terrified man, drenched in sweat, locks himself in the basement and tells his friends ,”whatever happens, no matter what I say or whatever he asks, don’t let me out of here. “knows that the full moon is approaching and is taking steps to protect everyone.
In a very real way, the Christian life is similar to that, we all have points of vulnerability, areas of vulnerability to error and self-destruction, there are cowardly beings in the universe who observe these areas and know how to collaborate with our physiology and our environment to catch us.
Wisdom consists in knowing what these areas are, recognizing the pitfalls that arise, and taking the necessary precautions to maintain fidelity to Christ and to those God has given us.
What worries me most about his situation is that his potential husband has a weakness for pornography, but that he just discovered it now, tells me that he did not see it as the horror of marriage, or that he was very paralyzed out of shame.
What you need is not a sinless man; you need a man who is deeply aware of his sins and his potential to sin even more; you need a man who sees how capable he is of destroying himself and his own family. man with wisdom, as Jesus says, to remove and throw away everything that leads you down the path of self-destruction.
It means a man who knows how to subvert. Rather, I would like to know who in his life knows this problem of pornography and how these people, with him, worked to prevent him from sickle, without exposing him, I would like to know from him how he intends to act in such a situation. in a way that can’t hide this temptation from you after marriage.
Due to the nature of this temptation, you may not be able to have a computer at home. This may mean that you need to receive real-time reports of all your Internet activity. There are a number of obstacles that can be put into The Fact is that to show you your love, he must fight (Ephesians 5:25; John 10), and part of this fight will be against himself.
Pornography is a universal temptation precisely because it does exactly what satanic powers want to do. It attacks the Trinitarian nature of reality, the loving communion of people, replacing it with masturbatory unitarism.
And pornography also attacks the figure of Christ and his church by interrupting the union of one body, leaving couples in a situation similar to that of our ancestors, hiding from each other and from God, out of shame.
And pornography attacks, as Satan always does, the Incarnation (1 John 4:2-3), replacing the couple’s bodily intimacy with the illusion of distant intimacy.
There is no guarantee that you can keep your husband away from infidelity, whether digital or carnal, but you can be sure that the man you are going to follow knows what he is in danger to do, knows what it means to repent, and knows what it means to repent. fights the world, the flesh and the devil to the cross.
In short, find a man who knows what his “full moon” is, which makes him vulnerable to his inner beast. Find a man who knows how to fight with himself and who knows how to ask others for help for it.
You won’t find a quick fix for this case, but you may find a werewolf living for the gospel.
Russell D. Moore. Website: http://www. russellmoore. com. Original: Should I marry a man with pornographic struggles?My answer
Translated by Filipe Schulz iProde. com Original: Should I Marry a Man Fighting Pornography?