The following text was taken from the Book of Winston T. Smith Recovering from Divorce, from Series Counseling, released in August 2018 by Faithful Editor.
God recognizes how dangerous and painful divorce is. When God created the marriage relationship between one man, it had to last a lifetime. That’s why he said, “Do I hate divorce? (Ml 2. 16 NIrV). However, God admits that in a world, sin sometimes destroys marriage. When Israel abandoned his devotion to God, which is similar to marriage, and broke his promise of faithfulness, seeking relationships with other gods, God described himself by publishing a letter of divorce to his people (Jeremiah 3. 8) Even if it hurt him, after years and years of warnings, God could not allow the people’s infidelity toward him to continue , so he sent Israel back, divorcing him.
- It may seem strange that God’s marriage to his people is over.
- However.
- God did not end marriage; sin did.
- However.
- Sin did not have the last word; God chose to correct marriage rather than abandon it; such an attitude tells us something important about God: He is pleased to restore what is broken; for God.
- The restored is more beautiful than the new; this doesn’t mean it will restore your life.
- Marriage.
- But that will restore and perfect you through the wounds of divorce.
How are you doing? Healing begins when you realize that your greatest need is to restore your relationship with God. Fortunately, restoring your relationship with God is not up to you. The Lord created a way to restore his relationship with him by sending his Son, Jesus, to save him. Jesus came to this earth, suffered, and died on the cross, so that you might be forgiven for your infidelity to God. What sins have separated you from God?Jesus’ resurrection guarantees that nothing, not even death, can separate you from God’s love. When you ask God to forgive You out of love for Jesus, your relationship with him will be healed and restored. God is your faithful husband who conquers your heart anxious for his fidelity to you. God does not promise to restore your marriage, but He does promise to restore it to you. Moreover, he promises you, in the midst of this painful situation, to reveal his loyalty, heal his wounds and grow him in a new and surprising way.
He plans to do much more for you than he can ask or think (Ephesians 3:20).
No matter how cruelly your spouse has hurt you, you will regret the end of your marriage. You face two painful situations: the loss of your spouse and the end of hope and dreams you had for your life as a couple. Marriage has been long and difficult, especially if your spouse has been violent, others may not understand your pain. However, God understands and is not surprised or offended. Like you, Jesus suffered by seeing the consequences of sin in this world. When his friend Lazarus died, Jesus stayed out of the tomb and wept, although he knew that some time later Lazarus would be resurrected from the dead (Jn 11:28-37).
Why did she cry? For sin and death are horrible and painful, yes, it is deeply comforting to know that God is greater than our problems, that He will be with us and even make us better because of them; However, knowing God’s comfort does not mean pretending. That we’re untouchable by pain. Let God’s love and comfort receive your pain. Your pain will not destroy you because it is contained in God’s love and promises to you (Romans 8. 18-39).
Part of the process of suffering is expressing your loss in words. Talk to a friend or family member about your pain. If you’re not ready to talk to someone, make a list of all the different ways you suffer. Go ahead, remember, the good times. Remember the hope you had for your wedding. Do you regret dreams that never came true?Travel, projects; maybe even children and grandchildren. Let yourself feel emotions and sadness and express them in words. In doing so, remember that God is listening to you. Remember that he also understands the pain of broken relationships.