I was recently reading the book Desafio aos Pais? The 14 Gospel Principles That Can Radically Transform Your Paul Tripp Family In A Bible Study I Prepared For Women. In this article, I will cite the 14 principles from the book summary and then I would like to lay out some thoughts on this rare time to have with our children during this pandemic. I believe that in his providence, God has given us precious time with our children, even if, of course, none of us want a deadly disease to overwhelm the world.
Paul Tripp begins by encouraging parents not to consider themselves “owners” of their children, but ambassadors of the Lord in their children’s lives. Would you dare add the term modestly? Disciples – along with the ambassadors. We are all called to make disciples of all nations – starting at home, with our children. With no one else in the world, we have the opportunity, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and until age 18, to walk together and teach them to follow Jesus with all that He stands for. The implications of this reality lead us to bend our knees No one can pretend to be enough for this task!But God is merciful and it is a privilege that children have entrusted to us during these years of formation.
- I must add that Paul Tripp wrote this book at the age of 66!Which makes us think it takes years to develop wisdom and perspective.
- And now we’re all in the trenches.
- Throughout the book.
- He admits and gives personal examples of where he falls.
- Under each domain so that their goal is not to make us feel guilty or establish unattainable ideals.
- I see this as the wisdom developed by a grandfather in faith that he clearly did not learn alone.
- We are blessed by many men and women around us.
- In our families and in the life of the Church among Christ’s brethren.
- Who bring us precious perspectives.
I propose to address the issue in one? First, before going through practical ideas about what to do on a daily basis. I prayed this as mothers, when I overcate this first phase of “shock”, having to be locked in isolation, running towards survival, we can attain, by the grace of God, with our husbands, a phase of renewed perspectives and focus on our vocation as parents. We must see this as an opportunity given by God to renew our relationships with our children. This is because we tend to develop bad habits and often feel pressured, busy and passively trapped in the hustle and bustle of everyday life rather than being proactive.
In this aspect of good habit formation, I am deeply inspired by Charlotte Mason’s philosophy of education: “Is education an atmosphere, a discipline, a life?And their number one principle that “children are born of people. “Focus on the importance of habits. We are all creatures of habits and, as families, we have the privilege of cultivating a family culture where God is at the center and in which we cultivate the relationships between us. Our society tends to see life in such an individualistic way that leads us to focus on ourselves and our families selfishly, simply thinking about the success and happiness of each family member, but without cultivating the sense of unity, in which together we have learned everything about life. , love, ups and downs, in a safe place.
If you have a hard time driving? your children during this time (and of course we all feel anxious and lack the ability to go out, which makes difficulties worse), perhaps you can chat with your husband and pray to know how to approach each child, think about the ways she struggles to obey and carry each relationship in prayer, asking God to help her address the areas that need attention and change. As Tripp points out, change is a process and not a one-time event, but at the same time, our children must respect authority. God first and we parents as God delegate authority in their lives. It does not mean being bossy, but loving and firm. It is so difficult, don’t imagine that no parent feels capable of achieving such a balance! I can imagine how difficult it is to deal with some bad habits and sins that our children (and ourselves!) Have when we spend most of the day away from home, and I pray that we can find today, inside our homes, even if In the difficulty and intensity of the situation, it is possible to see a spiritual growth in families, as parents and children renew their relationships and work for peaceful, respectful and honorable relationships. It’s a lifelong process, sure, but “intensive training” this time? It may be a time by God’s grace to start working on some areas where we can let things slip away, simply because of our exhaustion. Again, doesn’t this come from someone who has figured it all out? quite the contrary!
Here are some practical tips on how we can live these days of confinement.
Simple habits, such as sharing meals together three times a day, are a valuable opportunity to cultivate conversations, and how do parents develop dialogues to show leadership?Pray together before eating, read the Bible in the morning and/or at night around the table. , perhaps, sharing thoughts and ideas, asking our children what they think. Singing together is another great habit, both as part of our time of biblical worship and during the day, for fun. My children love to sing songs from Bible verses, as well as funny songs, children’s songs, etc.
Read good literature together, well-written books that demonstrate noble values, give us different perspectives of life, instill sympathy and understanding, demonstrate wise and stupid choices, help develop a sense of humor, and ultimately offer content for dialogue. I love the book “Honey for a Child’s Heart?” (“Honey for a Child’s Heart” in free translation), on the imaginative use of children’s literature in the family context. Author Gladys Hunt points out that while parents give their children?Milk? Of life (food, clothing, shelter), sometimes they find it difficult to give them ‘love’ or the sweetness of life that can be found in a good reading together, sharing these experiences through a well-written and ennobling literature and discussing the thoughts and ideas of these stories. itself, and I realize that not everyone has access to many books during this time. Maybe free online audiobooks can help?
Helping with household chores and preparing food with you is a great opportunity, they are creative and learn life skills. Teach them one of your own hobbies (knitting, sewing, music, baking, etc. ), if possible. Viewing family albums and old photos together, sharing events, childhood memories are rewarding moments. We all have a part of our sense of identity in our families, and children love hearing stories about their own past and that of other loved ones.
With the concept of habits, I discovered that you could develop a rhythm for the day. It is not a rigid calendar, but a central axis with certain fixed tasks and a space for flexibility. The three main meals form anchor points and of course there can also be afternoon tea and even a mid-morning snack, depending on your hunger. At home we have our Bible time after breakfast, but of course all families can find a time that suits them best. Academically, we are only at the beginning, with my oldest son in the literacy process, so we do his reading lesson every morning (only 10 minutes, 5 days a week). Depending on what your teachers have sent your kids, can you have a job more or less? to do, and I’d say this morning is the best time for everyone to focus. These lessons shouldn’t be too long. It is neither possible nor wise to reproduce school time with us. Because the teachers take care of about 30 children together. And at home, this time can be reduced by increasing the child’s productivity and concentration. At the same time, your children may be resistant or unmotivated, which can be quite difficult. I’d say they won’t. if you focus on your relationship with them first, reading and playing with them, doing housework and teaching them life skills, and just enjoying time together. Can you plant beans overnight and let them sprout on a paper towel? Anything that contains seeds this time of year can be your nature study. Sing and dance with them, read stories, play games (the simplest, like playing with young children and / or card games and board games with older children). Tell them stories and ask them to share their own stories. Take an afternoon nap while everyone rests.
It’s about finding your own rhythm in your particular lifestyle, if your kids are used to playing on screens, or watching cartoons all the time, you will need to break with this habit and help them understand how they can create their own games, think with their own thoughts, draw, read, etc. It’s good that they get bored too, because that’s where creativity starts to come in.
My calling is to look at our children from a holistic perspective, to say? Education? instead, yes, it is important to learn to read, write, do mathematics, discover the created world around us, meet those who have gone before us, read the thoughts of great writers, etc. context of character building, the development of a person who is made in the image of God and will live forever. I love being with my children, I consider myself privileged to be married to a pious and loving man who also plays an important role in the lives of our children. I know that not everyone has a father involved in their children’s lives, and perhaps he is not a believer either. Every family situation is different. I think I’m just trying to say that we don’t have to live by the rules of the crazy race around us, the mindset of success and achievement? Yes, we want our children to learn and grow, work hard, grow into mature and responsible adults who help others and live with integrity, but they don’t have to be first in the eyes of the world to honor God. We want more for them than the world wants; because the world is content with people who have all the status symbols, even if they come cheating and even if they live with pride and selfishness.