One in four women and one in six men have been or will be sexually assaulted throughout their lives. These numbers are staggering! Children need to know their intimate parts. Here are nine ways to protect your children from sexual abuse.
Here is an example of an explanation: “All parts of your body are good and certain parts of your body are reserved. “A fun way to explain this is to tell stories. The book, Did God do everything in me?It was written as a tool for you to explain to your children that God created their bodies to help your children against sexual abuse
- This can be annoying at first.
- But use the appropriate names of body parts.
- Children should know the correct names of their genitals.
- This knowledge gives the child the right language to understand his or her body.
- Ask questions to ask.
- And speak.
- About any behavior that could lead to sexual abuse.
Explain to your child which parts of your anatomy are private. Explain: “Some parts of your body should never be touched by others?”Except when I need help in the bathroom, when she gets dressed, or when you go to the doctor?. You can do this with younger children at bath time, or you can wear swimsuits and prove that all areas covered by this type of clothing are “private”. it doesn’t mention that other parts of the body can be touched inappropriately (such as the mouth, legs, neck, or arms), but it’s a good start for young children to understand the concept of parts.
Make your children understand that they can tell you if someone touches them in their intimate parts or in a way that makes them uncomfortable (even in areas not covered by their swimsuit), no matter who the person is or what they tell them. your kids who won’t have problems if they tell you they’ve been inappropriately affected?on the contrary, you will be proud of them for telling you and helping them in this situation.
Explain to adults and children the difference between acceptable and inappropriate keys. To your son or daughter you can say something like this:?Most of the time you like to be hugged, caressed and kissed, and also tickled, but other times you don’t like to love and it’s normal not to want to. Tell me if someone, a family member, a friend, or someone else touches or talks to you in a way that makes you uncomfortable.
Teach the little ones to say “Stop”, “Is it over?” and nothing more? You can reaffirm this by stopping immediately when your child expresses that they no longer want to be hugged or tickled. Their reaction will be observed and it will show that your child has control over their body and their desires.
If there are family members who have a hard time understanding your family boundaries, you can explain to them that you are helping your children understand their own abilities and that you are telling them no to unwanted contact, which will help if someone else. ‘one is trying to hurt them. For example, if your child doesn’t want to hug Grandpa, let him shake his hand or give you a different greeting.
Without realizing it, we sometimes ask the child something like this: “I’m sad, you can give me a hug. “While this may have an innocent intention, it makes the child feel responsible for his emotions and well-being: “Is Mom sad?If someone wants to abuse a child, can they use similar language to help the child?Feel better and the child can rationalize it as acceptable if it’s something he innocently does to you. “
Explain the difference between a secret and a surprise. Surprises are joyful and generate emotion, because in a few moments something will be revealed that brings great pleasure, secrets, instead, provoke isolation and exclusion. When keeping secrets becomes a custom with a person, children are more exposed to abuse. Attackers often ask their victims to keep things as secrets only between them.
Playing the doctor can turn the body’s organs into a game. If children want to play doctor, you can redirect this game by suggesting the use of dolls and stuffed animals as patients instead of their own body. This way, they can still use medical equipment, but to repair and maintain their toys. It may take some time for them to make this transition, but remind them that we don’t usually play games, like playing doctor with our bodies. If you find that your child is exploring his own body with another child, handle the situation calmly and set clear boundaries by saying, “It looks like you and your friend are comparing your bodies. Put your clothes on. And remember, even if it’s good to undress, they remain dressed for touching?
Talk to your kids about the people you trust, so give them permission to talk to these trusted adults when they feel scared, uncomfortable, or confused by someone’s behavior toward them.
After reading these steps, consider yourself now an advocate for child sexual abuse. Report everything you know or suspect to be sexual abuse. Otherwise, no one else will be able to do it.
Deus Fez Tudo em Mim addresses, wisely and simply, a problem that every family must think about today to prevent child sexual abuse. With illustrations and language tailored to the age group ages two to eight, this book seeks to help parents teach their children why their bodies are important and how to protect them.
“It’s a strange and beautiful book. Especially because it is truly unique: it explores God’s creation to help children protect themselves in an increasingly threatened culture. It is beautiful because it achieves its goal: to instill practical wisdom in a way that teaches The Shared Experience of authors makes this book a wonderful resource for parents as well. As a father of four, I really recommend it. ? Michael Horton, Professor of Systematic and Apologetic Theology, Westminster Seminary California; author of Too Beautiful to Sea the truth and simply believer (faithful).
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