Every beginning of the year, we are surrounded by mothers who will go through the difficult time sending their young children to college in another city. If this child is the last of the children to leave the house, most of the time this mother will. He has a huge task gap in his daily life, but in addition, there will also be a considerable transformation in his emotional life, it is the famous Empty Nest Syndrome.
For many women who have spent most of their time educating and caring for children and the home, this new stage of life with an empty, quiet home can be really difficult.
- Children who leave home at an early age.
- Between the ages of 17 and 19.
- Will have great challenges to live away from the comfort of their homes and the warmth and support of the family.
- We include in this framework the new tasks they will perform.
- They have to learn to do to take care of themselves and also the new stage of academic life that will require new responsibilities and use a lot of energy.
- Not to mention relationships with strangers (I leave some forgotten details) but what we must realize is that the young man who leaves home will have to face many situations that will require new strategies in life.
Mothers, you will have little or no time for the previous life, and that includes the relationship with you!
Mother, you’ll survive your son’s departure. I know it’s hard to see your young man leave, but it’s God’s grace that takes care of this whole process.
You will have more time for your activities; you can use something to take care of yourself, such as doing physical activity or learning something you’d like, but it’s been a long time (do it yourself, music, various studios).
In addition, your time with your husband can also be enriched with new investments. You can plan trips for two on vacation, or have one day a week to hang out, or even prepare a meal together, in short, enjoy time together. You can also receive friends more often or visit them.
If you are not yet serving in your church, this may be a good time to find a ministry where you can offer your gifts.
Before the day of departure arrives, plan ahead for how you can use your time, this will have the advantage of freeing yourself from anxiety and focusing on the right things and using your energy, thoughts and creativity to set goals and organize your agenda.
You can also think about the days and times when it will be appropriate to contact your child, which will help you maintain constant communication. You’ll also be able to adapt this moment as you become aware of the best moments to talk about. I meet a mother and daughter who talk every night after the girl comes home and finishes her personal care. Another mother and son speak less because their schedules are different. Parents must respect their children’s new rhythm. Children should remember that parents care about their well-being and should respond to these requests for communication.
It’s worth remembering to plan what weekends, holidays and holidays will look like, as anything previously organized causes less stress to parents and children.
Funding is also important now that young people must take more responsibility for their spending and manage income for their livelihood.
Finally, we know that maternal instinct is screaming in us, so let’s not waste this wonderful gift God has given us, okay?
While your child is away, take the opportunity to approach a young man who may be in the same situation as your child, who lives in a city far from home.
You can do with him what he would like the church in the city where his son lives to do to his son. Invite him to a family lunch after Sunday service. When baking sweets or bread (who bakes bread these days?), bring this young man a piece. You can also offer your parents your phone contact if they need to communicate for any reason. And so many other things a mother knows a child needs. Remember that we have been adopted into the best family there is and can be imitators of God in this role as adoptive parents.
Now it’s time to let the puppy fly and go, and you sheep pray and follow!
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who blessed us with all kinds of spiritual blessings in the heavenly regions of Christ, just as He chose us in him, before the foundation of the world, to be holy and irrepressible before him. ; and in love he predestined us for him, for the adoption of children, for Jesus Christ, according to the will of his will, to praise the glory of his grace, which he granted us free of charge in the beloved. Ephesians 1. 3- 6
In this book, I first read about adoption in God’s family. There are two full chapters on this topic. Very informative.