I like to collect stories of the lord’s fidelity. I think we all need to hear several reports about how God answered prayers, but I am in love with women who invest long-term in another human being. We cover a lot of serious things in The Chapter on Mother’s War. To offer an encouraging perspective, here are the stories of several women who have had deep encounters with God in conceiving, in gestation, raising and adopting children. This is the longest collection of personal stories in this book, because I hope each of you will find an element of hope or help in the midst of these stories. Do I know all these women and their children? They are trophies of God’s grace.
Elke’s expecting her second child. As he tells his past, he consciously touches his belly, stroking the thirty-two-week-old baby inside.
“I’ll have a child, ” he said with a bright smile. “He’s hitting a lot today.
He pauses and his smile begins to fade. ” I didn’t feel that way about my first pregnancy.
Elke grew up in Belgium and arrived in the United States nearly ten years ago. He came for a short-term job, hoping to stay less than a year. But in a few months, have you had a new boyfriend? And without wanting to leave. When she moved in with her, she started vomiting. To your surprise, was Elke pregnant?and I have difficulty at first. Despite the constant vomiting, she was excited about the pregnancy and eager to stay with the baby. But his great hopes for the future did not last long. Sick and exhausted, she didn’t respond well when her boyfriend lost another job. Then she kicked him out of his house.
Maybe that’s what prompted Elke to start dating again quickly. Her new boyfriend was a police officer in the process of divorce. He already had a child and made it clear that he did not want to have any more children in the near future. Initially, Elke did. Don’t talk about your pregnancy for fear of losing it. But, in the end, the course of nature forced her to reveal he himself.
“It took me a while to tell my second boyfriend I was pregnant,” she recalls. “So when I told him, he was surprised. I didn’t want to lose him to that baby, so I told him I was wondering if I was staying with him. You encouraged me to have an abortion, saying things like, “Well, are you new and need your freedom?”
It was obvious to Elke that her boyfriend wouldn’t accept her son. Besides, the baby’s father was black and her new boyfriend was white. “I thought, there’s no way he can be happy with this baby because it will be obvious that the baby is not his, ” said Elke. “My mind was definitely focused on being as happy as possible. I saw my way to happiness and I was halfway there. I had to change to stay happy, even give birth to the baby for adoption?It was never an option. That would involve a lot of personal embarrassment and a lot of questions. It was too much work for me, was abortion the quick and easy solution?Elke sought advice from a woman at work, who spoke openly about her. three miscarriages.
The first thing Elke heard was that it was more than time for an abortion in her state, she is expected to travel to a neighboring state town to have an abortion, as she was in the second trimester. Would abortion be more expensive, too?So he called his mother to borrow money, lying to him about something that was wrong with the baby and then he would have to have an abortion.