“An excellent woman, who can find her? It is much more valuable than jewels” (Proverbs 31. 10).
I often think that my husband has not found an excellent wife, when he tells me that I have failed him lately, that I am exaggerating and that I am reacting unnecessarily to a crisis, I am discouraged by my lack of excellence. My impatience and disrespect has embarrassed him in many situations.
- My practical.
- Performance-oriented heart tries to repair herself by making a list: an excellent wife cooks with organic foods (no saturated fats).
- Sews her own clothes (or at least irons her husband’s shirts!).
- She just utters words full of grace.
- (and not sarcastic) and read your Bible for hours (okay.
- A few minutes ?!).
This list brings more condemnation; concrete proof that I cannot be an excellent wife by my own strength.
While all these things can be signs of excellence, they are certainly not requirements. As I go to the scriptures to be comforted and convinced, I remember: an excellent wife is forged, not found anywhere; no man goes out looking and getting married. a woman who is pure wife perfection. In fact, no man knows what it is yet!
“It is the character of God, not that of our husbands, that can be fully and firmly trusted. Our central identity must be rooted only in Christ.
A devoted woman becomes an excellent wife because she understands that she is made in the image of God, remade in the image of Christ, and formed during a life of repentance and redemption. Excellence is not measured by a to-do list; manifests itself in the life of a woman who knows Jesus intimately.
“The excellent wife is her husband’s crown, but the one who shames is like rotting in the bones” (Proverbs 12:4).
When I think with humility and honesty of the times when I shame my husband, his destruction brings me back to reality; If I bring rot to the bones, then mine are already disintegrating because of lack of faith and bitterness; we are ashamed as wives when:
1. We focus on our husband’s sin;
2. We believe that our path is the best, prioritizing ourselves;
3. We tell you about him harshly or pejoration with another person;
4. Do we refuse blessing, prayer, sex or any kind of encouragement for the purpose of punishing, manipulating or sending a message?;
The woman who shames her husband is the girl she doesn’t know and doesn’t really trust her Heavenly Father.
If the woman’s identity is centered on her man, will she be ashamed when he defrauds her? Which will inevitably do. It is in the character of God, not in that of our husbands, that we can fully and firmly trust. Our core identity must be anchored only in Christ.
We are precious for Jesus, This transformation of the heart is the basis of every precious value our husband feels in us. It is not what we do, but what our precious Savior has done for us, that gives us the power to be excellent. wives We have no hope in ourselves.
“Excellence is not measured by a to-do list, it manifests itself in the lives of a woman who knows Jesus intimately. “
A pious wife understands that she is but the saving grace of Jesus Christ and that she has no excellence outside of him; Christ’s grace and love are precious to him; driven by her riches, she will become a glorious crown for her husband, helping him, nurturing him and loving him in the depths of Christ’s righteousness in her.
It takes a 10-minute ceremony to become a bride. Does it take a lifetime to become a great wife?someone who understands that the blood of Christ shed on the cross is necessary for us to offer excellence to our husbands.