I recently heard a radio debate about the proposed changes in UK legislation for internet use. The principle is basically that when connecting to a server, the home user is asked whether or not they want to access pornography. A simple answer: Yes, isn’t it? This caused a cry because apparently it would be very uncomfortable for families to argue together and people might have to be honest with their spouses!In addition, one of the main hypotheses, which was quickly dispelled by the number of calls, was that pornography was not (largely) a female problem. I’m always surprised that when it comes to an issue like pornography, child abuse and domestic violence, there are many who would say that “these are not women’s problems!”. Women are most often accepted as victims and rarely as perpetrators when addressing these issues.
Pornography is becoming increasingly a female problem. It is not exactly taboo, but it is very difficult to talk about it, especially in Christian circles among the female population. Many women fight this secret sin without ever revealing their battle(s) to Fortunately, the issue of women and pornography has recently begun to gain notoriety. Worryingly, some commentators have suggested that, for women, this type of lust differs from that of men, because it is more of a thirst for a perfect body image than any explicit sexual temptation. I do not know if this suggestion is supported by the discomfort that many women feel when they think of sex and pornography as a problem for “us”, but that does not seem true in my personal and pastoral experience. on this issue.
- In 1 John 2:15-17 we are warned: “Love neither the world nor the things of the world.
- If anyone loves the world.
- The Father’s love is not in him; because everything in the world.
- The desires of the flesh.
- The desires of the eyes and the vainglory of life.
- Come not from the Father.
- But from the world.
- Now the world passes.
- Along with its lust; But whoever does God’s will remains forever?.
When women watch pornography, they look as lustful as a man. In fact, most of the women I advise watch gay pornography with alarming frequency. Mark Driscoll, in his e-book Porn-Again Christian, although written primarily for men, is very useful for women because he suggests that the main reason for pornography is to encourage masturbation. I have to agree. Faced with the question of this, many women admit that, first of all, images are used to increase their enjoyment, this veil of secrecy around women and pornography results in spiritual poverty, a weak body image (pride), a false view of love (a huge modern pastoral problem) and this does not even alleviate the loneliness that many women (single and married) feel) It is a lie of the abyss of hell that this pleasure itself will satisfy. let’s know he’s ephemeral and makes us feel dirty, guilty and ashamed.
Many women fight in secret, ashamed to tell someone, largely for fear of recriminations; many are trapped in a cyclic pattern that they cannot and (often) do not want to break; However, we must confess our sins to each other and pray for them. one another, that we may be healed (James 5:16). We must have a good responsibility, because killing sexual sin begins with denunciation and ends with the fact that we are no longer enslaved (Romans 6. 6). It’s painful, but is it better to listen?I have never met you; You leave me, you who practice iniquity?If pornography in your life isn’t treated quickly, then, girls, I can assure you it’ll be something you’ll fight for for the rest of your life and pollute all your relationships.
This is not an issue where you can open a class and expect 25 women to participate, I would be surprised if this strategy worked somewhere, however, it is something that can be solved with good personal responsibility (or in small groups). Responsibility will involve difficult questions that no one really wants to answer (and often makes us suffer). As women leading the accountability session, we must love the women we care about to the point of asking the questions we are most embarrassed to discuss. . Women who are struggling with pornography need to wake up and appreciate what’s really good. It’s not something you can keep hiding. We must encourage each other to bring our sins to light and confess them to God and others. You can truly trust, that you are a good pious example, and share the truth. You won’t regret it.
God is faithful, righteous, and will cleanse us of all wickedness (1 John 1. 9). There is a big difference between a woman who gets involved/experienced and one who is really struggling with pornography. We must see that the Holy Ghost nourishes the desire to stop sin. Don’t be fooled by vague words and lies. Pornography is idolatry and there must be regrets. In Ephesians 5. 3-6, Paul reminds the church: “But insolence and all kinds of impurities or greed are not even mentioned among you, how do you suit the Saints?”Know this: no incontinent, filthy, greedy, idylather, has inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. No one deceives you with hollow words; Why, for these things, does God’s wrath come upon the children of disobedience?
“Hurry to help me, Lord, my salvation!?(Psalm 38. 22). We didn’t get incapacitated. We can find freedom and strength on the cross of Christ. We are not alone and God will help us stand firm if we seek many of us not just because we do not ask. We hide and pretend that the problem is not so serious or that it will simply go away on its own. It won’t go away. We need each other, we need deep repentance, and we must ask God to heal and cleanse us as we fight pornography.
God help us.