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Lindsey writes to ask: “As I have considered men who wish to marry me, pornography and lust continue to resurface as bastions in the lives of my suitors. I seek to see men with free eyes and use wisdom at the same time. I understand that every sin, including lust, is to turn away from Jesus’ pleasure by a dry cistern.
- “In the light of this.
- Do you think it is possible for a man to be strong in faith.
- To find true joy in Jesus.
- And to enjoy a fully satisfactory relationship with him.
- While simultaneously engaging in lust?I believe that every sin can be overcome by the power of the Holy Spirit.
- But I do not want to be naive either.
- Because I know that this subject is broad and delicate.
- I suppose another way of asking my question would be: Pastor John.
- Does the presence of pornography in a man’s life mean breaking the marriage commitment of a single woman like me?.
Well, I hear at least two questions here, and I can’t answer the last one: “Is this a break from engagement?” Until I respond to others. On reflection, here are the four questions I’ll have to answer: One is the question she asked herself.
So let me take care of this very quickly
Here’s my definition. I’ll skip the gay questions. I will miss sex in movies, they are very important issues, but to a greater or lesser extent, the issue that men usually face today when they engage in pornography is to look at or fantasize sexually with those who are not their wives. I’m talking about: watching or fantasizing. The woman can do anything, or just stand there. But the fact is, these are women other than his wife. That’s my definition.
Four reasons pornography is bad
Now, here’s why I think pornography is bad. I have to say this because as long as the guy doesn’t feel those things I’m going to say now, why it’s wrong, it won’t make sense for him to say, “I can’t marry you. “It’s so cool I have to say, “Woman, you’re absolutely right. Don’t you lower your standards?”
Here’s why I think pornography is bad. Number one: pornography is not to please, this is unpleasant for the women involved, because it approves of behaviors and desires that will destroy them if they do not repent.
This is not love for their future husbands, because by confirming a naked way of life in these women, it will be destructive to future relationships that these women will one day try to have.
It’s a lack of love for the parents of these women, put yourself in the position of father or mother, she’s your daughter, how do you feel about it?And here is this Christian who approves, approves, helps and confirms this, as if he did not care about these parents and their broken hearts.
Their hearts are broken by this girl’s behavior, and this boy doesn’t care if his heart is broken, he likes to see her break their hearts. So that’s number one: pornography has no love.
The second thing is that pornography is adultery, that is, he cultivates and seeks the mental and physical pleasures that God does to make them flourish only in marriage, but they are loved by other women besides our wives, so Jesus has a lot of strength. words to say about it (Mt 5:27-30).
Here’s the third thing. Pornography is destructive to a man’s ability to love a woman only for himself; he trains himself and his body, when he engages in pornography, to need more and more different, strange and erotic bodies and situations; therefore, it makes it difficult to solve. by the real body of the woman who will be offered as a wife.
Her body, even when at its best, will not be the retouched body of women in these pornographic sites. When I’m 50, much less. If she has not cultivated a kind of pure love for her wife, for herself as she is, then her eyes will continually sail beyond what she has to offer at 40, 50 and 60.
A woman must be able to trust a man. She needs to believe that he agrees when she says, “I’m what you have. Don’t you need to have eyes for another woman?A woman feels deeply engaged when a man says, “No, I really need more than you can offer me. “It’s a tragic thing for a man to tell a woman. Therefore, pornography destroys her ability to love her for what she is.
Here’s the fourth and final thing I’ll say about why a man is so wrong to do this. Pornography is destructive to a man’s soul. His ability to see God, the purity and greatness of his glory is reduced. He’s engaged.
The soul tends to shrink in the face of the size and quality of its pleasures. A man can say to his soul: “Read now to this petty pleasure, in short, dirty and selfish. Adapt to that, soul. As you train around him, soul. And if he does, he’ll make your soul small.
When a soul shrinks to this point, he cannot do much for God, he will not be able to see God, he will not be able to rejoice in God, in any of the things given by God, to which he should rejoice, in the glorious pleasures he offers. us in his Word and in his world.
So these are the reasons why I would introduce you to this woman and all the men who could hear it, the reasons why she’s so bad she’s looking for pornography.
Now, let’s get back to your question. He wanted to know, “Is it not possible for a man to be strong enough in faith, to have enough joy in Jesus, and to have a fully satisfactory relationship with him in order to overcome this?Isn’t that your frequent indulgence in lust? And my answer is that she’s right. A fully satisfactory relationship with Jesus means that Jesus is precious enough that we value Him above these four reasons.
These four reasons why I explained why pornography is bad become convincing if Jesus is our treasure. If Jesus is not only a doctrine, but the Lord, the friend, the Savior, and the supreme treasure of our lives, as it should be, then we will not continually hate women with our decisions to humiliate them and promote their destruction. We will not continually commit adultery in our hearts with these women. We will not continually pollute our ability to love our present or future wives. We will continuamente. la the ability of our souls to savor God’s glories. We will not do these things, because Jesus is totally different from that.
A man who keeps saying, “I accept all this destruction, embrace all this evil, embrace all this filth, embrace all this idolatry and hate women?”says something that a woman who is about to marry him must listen loud and clear.
Your last question?” Could it be a breach of commitment if this man fails to get pornography, if he searches for it regularly?”I’d say, ”Yes, that’s a break with commitment’. I’m not a woman now, so I can’t do it personally. I’d just like to say, funny, not legalism. You look like a woman fighting for biblical norms, not artificial, unrealistic and perfectionist norms. I hear grace in your question. I don’t hear fragility. ” And I’d say, ‘Don’t go down the bar. ‘
I think we’ve lowered the bar too much. We treat men like dogs in heat, rather than men created in the image of God and who have the Holy Spirit, whose fruit is love, joy and self-control, the latter, self-control, is generally used in relation to sexuality. Men are not victims and these women have the right to expect more from us.
I would say to her and the other women, “Don’t lower your standards. Do I think God is purifying a man’s soul and body for you right now?
It is knowledge that frees from lust, knowledge that is faith. It is such a real and precious knowledge, so satisfying to your soul that when an attitude, emotion, thought or dependence threatens to diminish your ability to have and enjoy that knowledge, Fight as if your own life is threatened, because in fact it is.
Remember 1 Peter 2. 11?” Beloved, I beg you, “abstain from carnal passions, which make war on the soul. “Your life is in danger depending on how you fight your enemy called lust.