The topic of sexualized dreams is undoubtedly one of the topics we know most and one of the most frequently asked questions so far. This is an email from an anonymous man.
“Hi Pastor John and thanks for the podcast. I am 31 years old, I am a believer and I have been married for twelve years to a wonderful Christian. I know God’s commandments on sexual sin and its eternal dangers. For almost a year, I successfully fought the sin of pornography, through prayer, the word of God, the help of my wife, my pastor, and an outside organization that tracks the activity. Internet for accountability. I know and agree that sex outside of marriage is a sin and a mistake. Even the desire to have sex outside of marriage is a sin, as Jesus said. My question, however, is: why do I have lucid sexual dreams of people other than my wife, even people I have never met before? These dreams bother me intensely, even after waking up, as I can’t help but feel like I have sinned, and worse, I feel like I have no control over it, as in most of my dreams. I have a very poor sleep pattern, partly because I prefer not to dream. I am very concerned about this and would appreciate any help. Pastor John, what would you say?
- The first thing I’d say is that I don’t know why this is happening.
- I don’t want to pretend that I have a psychological.
- Spiritual or physical-hormonal response to what’s going on.
- I think it’s good to be disturbed by that.
- Is and as the others are.
- But it’s not good for it to hurt.
Let me make that distinction. Let me give you four scriptures that can shed light on how dreams work, what they mean, what they are, and then end with five brief practical suggestions. I pray that the Holy Ghost can use these texts to gain a new power. to release dreams that we cannot control, but that God can.
So here is the first text: Zechariah 10. 2
“For domestic idols say vain things, and soothsayers see lies, tell deceptive dreams, and offer empty comforts; that’s why people walk like sheep, grieving, because there is no shepherd.
Now follow this simple argument: there’s something like fake dreams, that doesn’t mean you dreamed when you didn’t, it’s not like those people who say they had a dream, but didn’t. displays the text. What the text shows is that they claim that their dreams had a special meaning, that they did not have. There are false meanings. Dreams come and give us false messages.
Then my first exhortation is to tell the Lord and the dream and the devil: “It was a false dream. That doesn’t mean he’s unfaithful. I want to be faithful to my wife. I’m not unfaithful. ” for him. These dreams are a lie. Then say that, based on the reality of the Bible, there is something like a false dream.
Here’s number two: Deuteronomy 13:1-3
When a prophet or dreamer appears in your midst and announces a sign or wonder, and the sign or wonder I have spoken to you has occurred, and says, “Let us seek other gods, which you do not know, and serve them. , will you hear the words of that prophet or dreamer, because the LORD your God tests you to see if you love the LORD your God with all your heart and soul?
Sensational!! God uses false prophets and false dreams, even accompanied by supernatural signs and wonders, to test his people, so it is not wrong to say, as long as these dreams haunt you: “Dreams, Satan, brain, hormones, whatever, I will not be swallowed by these things. “I see my faith being tested here. Do I like purity?Yes, of course. Will I go through faith in Jesus’ blood to cover all my sins and allow myself to walk in the truth?
So I think it’s not wrong to say, “I don’t know why, but these dreams put me to the test and I’ll pass this test. “
Here is number three: Isaiah 29: 7-8. This is, as far as I can see in the Bible, what is closer to a Freudian vision of dreams, that is, that point to deep needs or desires, even sexual ones.
“As a dream and a night vision will be the multitude of all nations that will fight against the House of God, as well as all who fight against it and its strengths and squeeze it. He will also be like the hungry man who dreams that he is eating, but when he awakens he feels empty; or like the thirsty one who dreams of drinking, but when he wakes up he feels weak and thirsty; Will the multitude of nations fight mount Zion?
Therefore, the most immediate point of this text is that nations, which think they will win over Israel, will gain nothing but the dreamer who has quenched their thirst for dreams. That’s the point.
This is why I remember this text: it is common knowledge that thirst can lead a person to dream that he drinks, which only leads to frustration; hunger can make a person dream of eating, only to wake them up hungry. They say that in the same way, sex hormones, desires, impulses, generated by nature, can make a person dream that they have sex, and wake up without having sex.
Now, that doesn’t explain why you would dream of women who are not your wife, this can be attributed to old models of fantasies that go back thirty, twenty or fifteen years and must be broken, but the fact here is that there is nothing extraordinary when a physical desire, such as hunger, thirst or sexuality, makes you dream that desire is satisfied when it is not satisfied , and the question is: what are you going to do with this in the life you’re awake??
Here’s the latest: Job 33:14-18
On the contrary, God speaks one way, yes, in two ways, but man does not pay attention to him: in a dream or in a night vision, when a deep sleep falls upon men, when they fall asleep in his bed, then opens his ears and seals his instruction, to separate man from his plan and deliver him from pride; to keep your soul away from the grave and your life going through the sword?.
That’s wonderful. This text teaches that God uses dreams to frighten us with warnings, to humiliate our pride, and to prevent us from sining. But if this is true, any way to deal with sexually illicit dreams?Do you dream where you do illegal things? It is that God terrifies us in our dreams with the horror of this perspective in real life, so that we do not realize them.
We have returned to the idea of being tested as I said before: will the dream have the effect established by God to humiliate us, to be frightened by our propensity to sin?Are you awake?
So here are my five suggestions that arise from these few biblical observations:
“My eyes are continually raised to the Lord, for he will take my feet out of the trap. “