After explaining how a husband should exercise his authority, William Gouge lists the different ways a man loses his authority. Here it refers to functional authority. The husband still has official authority as a head of the family, but people don’t listen to him and, in extreme cases, there may be a divorce in which the husband loses his primary authority. List three different ways husbands can lose their authority. : rebellious life, cruelty/tyranny and refusal to lead families, giving them the freedom to do whatever they want.
[Men], because of their irreverence, frenzy, drunkenness, immorality, inability to take their lives seriously, waste of money and other dishonorable behaviors, thus become insignificant and thus lose their authority, although women should not take these opportunities to despise her. husband, it remains a fair trial for him to be despised, considering it becomes despicable.
A man who lacks discipline and self-control loses his authority and deserves contempt.
Contrary to the guidelines I have just given [how to exercise its authority wisely], there is hard, hard and cruel behavior that, through violence and tyranny, seeks to maintain its authority. Strength, in fact, can provoke fear, but fear. Of slaves, that fear produces more hatred than love, it causes more inner contempt than external respect.
A husband who rules with tyranny and violence loses the heart of his home. A wife or children can follow you, but this is just to avoid hurting you, not out of love or respect for your husband.
And contrary to [the wise government] is flattering provision, which, against his own judgment, yields to his wife’s inclination in things that are illegal; Would you rather lose your authority than make your wives unhappy?spirit, which thanks to their wives, may have more freedom to receive bribes. Among these, I can count those who, against her will, satisfy that of women, leaving her and the children to follow the latest fashion, dress inappropriately. for their posts, they are always with silly friends, etc. Husbands may hear good suggestions from their wives, but they cannot obey them in bad things.
Husbands lose their authority when they refuse to stand firm or believe that a path is right, and instead follow what their wife tells them, when they sleep their wives and yield to all their desires, lose their authority. cowardice or manipulation (“accept bribes”).
Husbands often become irritated when we are not heard and our authority is not respected. It’s. A husband and father should expect to be heard, but when that happens, the first thing we need to see is our lives. Are you lazy and rebellious? We expect our wife and children to work hard, but are we kind, are we cruel and executioners?Do we govern ourselves through threats, screams and violence?Finally, can we say no to our women?Otherwise, we lose our authority. It’s hard to respect a banana.