This article is a summary of Heber Campos Jr. ‘s lecture at the Interactive Faithful Youth Conference 2020.
Before looking for an answer, it is worth asking why we raise this issue, which at first seems superfluous or meaningless. For the bride and groom, this may seem un important; for the bride and groom, this may seem like something already decided; this may seem very hypothetical, however, it is important to think of this issue in order to have confidence in the decisions made on the basis of the principles of Christian life. At least two main topics:
- First.
- God’s will with respect to our choices.
- This will can be a matter of obedience.
- As in the case of the commandments (or preceptive will.
- That is.
- What God forbids and/or commands).
- For example.
- The case of an unequal yoke or coexistence with someone without commitment.
- Because the celebration of an alliance is a biblical ordinance.
- This level of analysis is easier to understand: to do what God commands and not to do what He forbids.
- But there is also the question of a divine plan for our lives or.
- In other words.
- His decree of will.
- Our expectation here must be shaped.
- Because we often expect God to reveal his plan to us in a great way.
- When in reality what we need is to learn to submit to this plan.
- This is what it means to learn God’s decrees.
- Understanding these decrees will lead us to do holy things.
This brings us to the second theme: the direction and security that comes from God for our choices, sometimes we make reckless decisions, so we have to learn God’s decrees, it is common to think that this revelation to make decisions occurs mechanically or automatically, such as dreams, prophecies, speaking to the heart or testing with God when, in fact, this direction passes through Christian maturity , for those who grow in divine wisdom (Salt 25:4-10; Cl 1. 9-10).
When looking for an address, you generally expect something that will lead to a “good” decision, that is, with a certain degree of certainty. But sure of what, that everything will be all right and that there will be no obstacles?The Bible does not promise this to God’s children, we cannot be sure of this because we are sure of salvation, for example by reading 1 John, but among the different degrees of certainty. we can look for evidence that we have made the right decision.
How do we become wise? The first is prayer. Just as Solomon prayed for wisdom, James teaches us to seek the Lord’s wisdom to make decisions (James 1), and James associates that wisdom with relationships. The second is meditation on the Word, read the scriptures, listen to them well, but not only that, we have to go further. We need to reflect and deal with what we hear. If we forget, we have a lot of content and little thought left. The consequence is a “spiritual bulimia”: we eat a lot and do not digest. On the other hand, the Psalmist says that he loves the law of the Lord and follows it, chews it (Salt 119:97-98) and finally, third, but not least, through contact with wise brothers, contrary to the idea that maturity only comes. From individual devotion, in the scriptures, sanctification and wisdom occur primarily when one lives with other wise and God-fearing brethren. That’s why Proverbs touches the key to being together and listening to good counselors.
This maturity is what allows us to make decisions, even in love life, by making the wisest decisions possible. More than “choosing someone”, she needs to ask you to do and/or stop doing certain things. The Lord’s wisdom should guide him in four ways:
If you have neglected the pagan way of thinking, if you are aware of the challenges that lie ahead, if you have grown spiritually and if you enjoy your spouse on the basis of Christian life, then you have been ready for marriage. Married. Beware of secondary problems. Being afraid is often associated with wanting a lot of God’s security. Seek wisdom and you’ll be ready to get married. But above all, know that marriage is not the ultimate reality, but the shadow of our reality. union with Christ, even if the marriage does not seem close, rests knowing that you already have a Boyfriend, Jesus Christ.