My husband and I were once with a group of young people. Three of these young men were sitting in front of us to eat: two boys and a girl. One of the men was one? Computer, with glasses. The other was a student with slightly cooler hair and no glasses. The girl was obviously with the latter. While the computer nerd was busy serving everyone during lunch, cleaning dishes and trash, the student was irritated by the girl by a minor accident and spilled red juice on her leather jacket and white shirt. She chose the wrong guy, and the juice doesn’t seem to change her mind. If this relationship continues and especially if it leads to marriage, it means she seeks distress.
All the christian young women who are still out there, listen: who they marry is important. You may think the way he treats her isn’t that bad, she won’t get better after marriage. You may think that will change, it’s possible, but most of them won’t. You may think it can serve you and eventually help you, but if you can’t do it now, you won’t be able to do it after that and you’ll take a risk. you should direct and care for it, and not rely on your advice on basic personality or behavioral problems.
- Unless a married person is honest enough with you.
- You won’t be able to understand how much impact a husband will have on your entire life.
- After salvation.
- There is no other long-term event that changes so many areas of your life.
- Here are some of the ways marriage will affect all aspects of life.
1. This will have an impact on you spiritually. If the child is not a believer, you can stop there. You have no right to unite a redeemed soul with an un regenerated person, even if it seems open to change. Christ bought you for a price, and it is not an option to give that blood-bought heart to someone who does not know and does not like his Lord. This will hinder your spiritual development, give way to countless temptations, stift your life of prayer, hinder regular church attendance, and cause great family conflicts if you have children.
If the child is a believer, is he steadfast?Will you prioritize spiritual growth or put other things first?Will he ask you how your soul is so that it can help you grow in holiness and love for Christ, or will you leave it to your shepherd?Will he guide his children in this area?In church, will you help the children sit properly, pray, find the hymns, or will you show what will happen next and help the family pay attention to Many women who have married immature men spiritually, thinking that this would not be a big problem, or that man would change, make mistakes, and bear the scars.
The health of your eternity is at stake. Think
2. This will affect you emotionally. Will the guy you think of cheer you up, love you, be kind and try to understand you, or will you want to go out with friends when you have a rough night? Will he listen to you when you’re struggling with something or will he? Are you worried about video games? Will he get irritated when you cry or pick up tissues to wipe away your tears and give you a hug? Will he try to understand that you are probably more sensitive than he is, more sensitive to problems and comments, or does he regularly talk about your feelings?
A woman had trouble breastfeeding her baby, believing it was best for her, but it was very difficult. Instead of providing support and encouragement, the husband began to complain every time he saw his wife struggling to breastfeed.
We have to get rid of the princess complex, but we really have emotional needs. Any boy who is indifferent to his feelings and self-esteem is selfish and should be left alone.
Careful, a husband can mutilate or maintain his emotional health
3. This will physically affect you. Will the boy you’re with cover your basic needs, be able to shelter you, dress you and feed you?At one point in our marriage, I was worried there wouldn’t be any job opportunities. Did my husband assure me he’d work at McDonalds, dig ditches, clean the rolling tracks?Everything you need to support the family, regardless of their gifts. background. That’s the kind of attitude you want. A man who does not provide for his house is worse than an infidel (1 Timothy 5:8). You may need to help ease the financial burden, but unless your husband is disabled or in some other unusual circumstance, you shouldn’t have to use it alone.
Will the man you’re caring for or abuse your body?If you get slapped, kicked, etc. , when you go out together, get out of there, it’s almost certain that it will abuse you after marriage, and statistics show that this is especially true when you’re pregnant. Will you take care of your body and protect it or hurt you?There are women in churches across the United States who thought it wasn’t a great thing to get little punches or slaps (of the friendly type) from their boyfriends, but who came later to cover up their husbands’ assaults.
Will the man you are with sexually care for you honor the marital bed with physical and mental fidelity or flirt with others, feed his addiction to pornography, or even leave her for another woman?These problems, but if the seeds or practices are already there, be careful. I recently saw a newlywed couple and the husband was openly flirting with another woman. Unless something radical happens, this marriage is heading for disaster.
Will he be loving and kind to you in bed? A colleague who is not a believer once told my sister that after her first sexual encounter, she had trouble walking for a few days because her boyfriend had been very rude, that is, she was not altruistic enough to take care of the body of the woman she said she loved.
Be careful. Your body needs care and protection
4. Will the man you’re thinking of be a concern or help you address your concerns, will it encourage your intellectual development or neglect you?Will he appreciate your opinions and listen to what you think, or will he ignore your thoughts?Will it help you manage stress so your mind doesn’t overload or allow you to deal with problems on your own?of you and be considered if you feel mentally tense, or will he ignore you?I know a woman who was able to handle pregnancy and childbirth very well, but postpartum depression had a big impact on her mind. have more children, until his wife ended up in a mentally disabled institution.
You may think that the intellectual or mental aspect of a marriage is of little importance, it is more important than you think. Take it seriously.
5. This will have an impact on your relationship What is your relationship with your mother like?Do you like your boyfriend?Imagine in ten years: you tell your husband your mother is coming over for the weekend. Are you angry?Are you kidding your friends wrong? Of course, the husband must take the top spot in his relational priority, just as we have to leave the father and mother and be together, but the parents remain a big part of the picture. Whatever your negative feelings toward your parents now, they can grow. After marriage, will it strengthen or harm your marriage?will even destroy your relationship with your parents. People who know you better and love you more now can be removed from your life by a husband who hates them.
The same goes for sisters and friends, will they be welcome at home at reasonable times?Will the boy you’re with foster healthy relationships with other women or be jealous of normal biblical friendships?Will it help you counsel younger women and be grateful when older women counsel you, or will this practice denigrify you?
Don’t sacrifice too many good relationships for the sake of a boy who can’t value the people who love you.
How will your boyfriend act after the marriage vows?This is just one example of how a husband can bless or curse his wife. The effects are deep, long lasting and can be wonderful or difficult. Certainly, there are no perfect men. But there are great men and it’s better to be single all your life than to marry someone who will make your life a burden. Celibacy can be great. Marriage to the wrong person is a nightmare.
I once saw a pastor who needed to call the police to protect the wife of a husband who, in the church parking lot, was trying to prevent him from worshipping and being with his family. It’s ugly.
Don’t be so desperate to get married that I let your marriage be a sadness. If you’re in an unhappy marriage, there are ways to get help. But if you’re not married, don’t get in that situation. Don’t marry someone you can’t follow. Don’t marry someone who doesn’t seek to love you as Christ loved the church. Marry someone you know and show the love of Christ.
For Rebecca VanDoodewaard. Website: www. thechristianpundit. org. Original: the person you marry is important
Translation by Arielle Pedrosa. Animation provided by the blog Mulheres Piedosas. From iProde. com. Original: The person you marry is important!