This article is a summary of Emilio Garofalo Neto’s lecture at the Interactive Faithful Conference 2020.
In the first part we saw how fraud is a sin to generate expectations in others that we do not want or cannot meet, now we will see how brothers can act as wolves to attack sheep, we will analyze the concept in the light of 1 Tim 5. 1-2.
- Timothy is advised to treat other women as mothers or sisters.
- Although the context here is more disciplined.
- The interactions we have between us should be thought of in this way.
- Act and talk like you’re talking to someone in your family!this case of fraud.
- As with the brothers.
It is common for fraud to occur by one or both people who make implicit promises, that is, what that means, sometimes it is a misinterpretation, but it is often intentional, this is because the limitations of digital conversations are different from personal interactions: giving us access to conversations that may never occur live or , if they did, they’d be more cautious. Discussions give people more power. We allow access to us even more. Once people can see what we do, what we use, what our tastes and interests are, it’s easier to leave a line of access open to people. Notice the risk associated with confusion because the criteria are much more flexible in the digital environment. The access given ends up being interpreted as an access to the heart, as an interest. Is it advantageous to offer so many opportunities and ease? All because we have difficulty establishing borders in this digital world.
That’s how we get to the point of false expectations. They come from the difficulty of measuring people’s ease of access to us. And starting to understand and become aware of it is already useful for judging situations, such as that person who continues to answer all your stories, for example. Let’s see how this kind of false expectation fraud happens.
As far as men are concerned, it is possible to identify several characters and characters created for this purpose, the first to be highlighted is the figure of the “caretaver of the hearts of the nation”, who creates false expectations by showing himself as a friend who is visible during all hours, but who has a simple interest, whether physical or not , creates expectations by using care and care as a device, it looks like someone who will take care of their feelings, but at the same time as it shows you attention, it does the same with several girls to “increase the chances”. He’s still here. It may not happen personally, but online access is there.
The second character is the “flirtation of all time”. She’s always there to pick up the ball, to say how beautiful the girl is or that she doesn’t think the girl is single. The girl may be fooled into thinking he’s serious, but her interest is flirting. He likes to feel like he has access to a lot of girls. But, having access cut off, he shows himself as a true ogre who throws insults.
The third character is the provocateur. She appears to have found the modern version of “pulling the girl’s hair in front of the high school,” attracting the girl’s attention by appealing to bullying. When they answer you, are you supposed to acknowledge the mistake?And start trying, to fool her. Young women should never be told that those who abuse them do so as a sign of affection or affection.
For women, we have also identified some recurring profiles. An example is the “cultivator of the friends’ area”. She likes the fact that she has a lot of kids who do all the nonsense she says, reinforcing what she thinks. His courage is not in Christ, but in how many boys persecute him. But this idolatry is not sustained and necesita. la worship of its followers. It may be simpler?to have a supposed friendship with men, and she ends up creating expectations in them, even to keep them close, but at some point she has to announce the bad news from the friends area.
Another possible character is the “young lady looking for ransom”. She says there are no reliable men, as if she were in a tower asking a gentleman to save her. To feel valued look for the right feedback, feed them and that’s it Then the guy is useless, he can be excused.
What about the cupids? Many consider celibacy to be the evil of the church and still seek to associate; they defraud others by creating false expectations in them; sometimes they even make up that they love each other without ever speaking; and in this, much harm is done to God’s people. Many suffer these attempts to force situations.
The thing is that with poorly defined borders we generate expectations and we also frustrate ourselves, in a world like this do not do with others what you would not like to be done to you, all this is quite complicated because the human Being is complicated, social networks impose certain barriers (such as fraud) to healthy relationships while removing others (limits that could previously deprive us of such situations).
We will only understand how to behave by looking at Jesus Christ, Jesus does not create a false image of who He is to draw us to him. Christ makes no promises that He cannot keep. This does not create empty expectations and does. not camouflage who he is to be loved and loved more. Therefore, his disciples must be marked to be like Him. If Christ is formed in us, our relationships must reflect how Christ works.
By the grace of Christ, stop defrauding the people for which Christ died and honor friendships by acting with purity, treating brothers and sisters as sisters, with all purity, for the glory of Christ.