Guilt is a constant shadow in a young mother’s life, and she has an unpleasant way of saturating many of her efforts to educate, serve, and love others. “Am I doing enough for my children? What do you think of me, what does God think of me?
When you’re a young mother, does everyone want anything from you?Your family, your church, your boss, your neighbor. Chances are you’ll give in more than you thought, but along the way, guilt bites your soul, gradually eating away your inner peace and joy, and often lasts for years, even after your children grow up and leave.
Dear Mommy, don’t waste your guilt!
Don’t waste your guilt
Don’t waste your guilt, listen to it and evaluate it. Bring it out of the shadows and examine it in the light of Scripture. Expose your feelings to Christ. Is this guilt a legitimate conviction of sin? Confess your sin, receive forgiveness from Christ, and ask where and how He wants you to change.
But maybe your fault is an egocentric and uncomfortable fear that if you were a little better or if you worked a little harder, you’d be noticeably and admired enough to feel good about yourself. It’s a false guilt, rooted in pride. If this describes your guilt, remember that for the death and resurrection of Christ, you are accepted by God. The solution to false guilt, as well as true guilt, is the gospel.
Paul talks about these two types of guilt in 2 Corinthians 7:10. There is a pious sadness that produces repentance and sadness from the world that produces death. Ask yourself: Is it to which I dedicate my time and energy is guided by a repentance that gives life or a pride that produces death?
The main missionary field of a young mother
One of the reasons a young mother may feel unfairly guilty is when she forgets that her primary and crucial mission must be her children.
God values children. He attaches great importance to teaching our children to love and serve Him (Deut 6:7-9). Jesus was outraged when the disciples did not recognize the value of the children in the expansion of the kingdom of God (M. 10:13-16). And God tells us that children are his blessing to us (See 127:3).
Motherhood demands the best of us as women. Children are our present for the future. Then accept God’s call to serve your family. Divine guilt will not prevent you from investing wholeheartedly in your little ones for God’s sake. Don’t feel guilty about investing in your children as your first ministry when you’re young. It teaches the younger generation, to establish intimate emotional connections with others. Their sensitivity, availability, dedication, affection and patient care are irreplaceable.
Maternity: pure and simple hard work
On the other hand, Paul’s word to me as an older woman is to instruct newlyweds to love their husbands and children, to be sensible, honest, good housewives, kind, submissive to their husbands, that the word of God is not defamed. (Tt 2. 4-5).
Why should the Apostle tell older women to teach such things to young women?Because it can be hard to love your husband and children. In fact, it may be easier to minister outside the home. Why is it more satisfying for us to plan a meeting?women’s retirement for two hundred women to plan a camp?for our little ones on a rainy afternoon? I think it’s because the rewards are more immediate and don’t require much from us.
Being a young mother is hard, pure and simple job Sometimes it looks like slave labor!Young moms can identify with the caricature of a child who sees a wedding album with her father and says, “That was the day Mom came to work for us!”
But God called you to this ministry. She knows that there are no neutral moments in the life of a young child, whose experience is in need and in continuous development, her children will bear the mark of her work as a mother throughout her life, as much of the human behavior comes from imitation. .
You’re the only mother of your children. Their ministry to them is the deepest expression of their love for them. Raising your children should be well done the first time. This is one of the few areas of life that can’t be said: “If you don’t succeed at first, try again. “
You have received this commission from God, as a mother, your privilege is to teach them to respect their father and to be kind to their brothers and sisters, to choose nutritious food and healthy entertainment, because they must value courtesy and organizational capacity, and what causes their efforts, reputation, and even blood deserve.
Are you discouraged when you spend day after day immersed in the worldly tasks of motherhood?Then think of the honor of guiding the spiritual, intellectual, and social development of small spirits and hearts. Think of the thrill of teaching them the truths of God’s Word. . Think about the importance of teaching your young children to live under authority and preparing them for future relationships by teaching them love and trust. Think of the pleasure of sending another pious, vibrant, strong, safe, and loving young man into this world in need, with the courage to live well for Christ. What a dignified investment!
What Young Mothers Need: A Heart for the Home
Another challenge for a young mother is cultivating a love for the home.
God called us to love our children at home (Titus 2. 4-5). We can’t improve God’s plan! It means more than just staying home. This means repairing your heart in your home. However, women can leave their homes in places other than work or external departments. Mobile phones, emails and discussion forums can also remove a mother from her main ministry.
The apartment means being “completely there. ” It means rejoicing for being able to show your children how to ride a tricycle, make their own bed, create good memories, and share their toys with others. He can serve his family and eventually his Heavenly Father, helping his children assemble this puzzle for the seventeenth time, washing those sticky fingers, planting a small garden, interpreting biblical stories. And pray together as you prepare for Dad’s return as the highlight of your day!
What’s the alternative?(Pr 29. 15)
Remember this: you have the privilege of giving young hearts the meaning of God!Do you have to feel guilty? By letting your children experience intimacy, closeness, and availability in their early years with you, you can make them meet those needs of the soul in Christ, their Savior, as they mature, and then you will be happy to send them with a light in their souls to bless this world in darkness.
Someone will influence their children, instill values and set standards in their young and impressionable minds. Let that person be you!
This phase passes
Does this mean you’ll never invest in others outside your family?Of course not. But if you are a young mother, use your primary maternity ministry to guide your choices about where to serve Christ now. Don’t let anything take you away from her unique role as a wife and mother.
Is this phase of your life just that? One sentence. And each phase is a divine call from our Creator and King Organizing a new event in the church is important. Teaching your little one to be nice to his sister is also important. One of the two things that can be done best for you during this phase is: Serve God well by serving your children first. Very soon, they will grow and disappear, and all these unique moments of teaching will end. And you will have a wide opportunity to serve Christ outside your home in the next stages of your life.
But be strong, and don’t let your hands fail, because your work will be rewarded?(2Cr 15. 7).