One thing I’ve learned as a former junkie (and working with them a lot) over the past 20 years is that, in general, we like (if we don’t) things that often control us. such a strange monster because, on the one hand, we desperately want to change and, on the other hand, no, we love and hate what enslaves us at the same time, this is a condition that many people live with and have (unfortunately) accepted as over the years.
Often, when people come looking for advice, we will inevitably discuss how they feel powerless to change their current situation. They feel out of control. They are tired of their lives, believe and do certain things because they think these things will give them more control and make them happy, so we have such addiction problems in our society, we hate the things we do and at the same time, we need them to help us manage our desperate lives. When addicts start doing anything, it’s usually for fun, but when it comes to my door, it’s no longer fun for them. in fact, exactly what they controlled, now he controls them, so when I deal with drug addicts, I like to ask people the following question:
- Drinks.
- Drugs.
- Thoughts.
- Lust.
- People.
- Etc.
- The list can be endless.
- Addiction (which we treat as a form of idolatry) is not necessarily related to chemicals.
- Often.
- People’s lives can be a bit like an arm fight.
- They shoot one way and then the other.
- And “come.
- ” Again.
- In this war.
- The voice of madness (somewhere) will speak to them.
- Madness will tell you not to worry about change.
- It will tell you not to worry about asking for help.
- Because it will not do any real and lasting good.
- Will madness tell you they were born? She’ll tell you you can’t do it.
- This will certainly tell you that Biblical Christianity has nothing to offer you!.
At Niddria, we teach people that we are constantly at war with us!Part of us wants things to go on as usual and another part of us wants to change our lives completely. One side wants death and the other wants life. Here are two, fundamentally important questions for anyone seeking advice on life control issues.
It is more difficult to answer than many think. 100% of the time, you will have the following response: “I will do anything to change. ” Unfortunately, most of the time, this answer is a lie. People think they are ready to do anything until they have to make a difficult decision. So how do you know when a person really doesn’t want to change? First of all, inside, they already know. Also, the great test is what a person is willing to do to change his life. There are those who go back to old friends, lie, cheat, and do whatever it takes to continue their lifestyle. They really don’t want to change. They love the idea of change, but when it comes to resolution, they are not prepared to do the hard work and make the tough decisions. I illustrate it like this: if I tell my wife that I love her, but am looking for other women, what do my actions say about me? My behavior tells the true story. If I want my wife, but I also want another wife, then I really don’t want my wife. We’ll know how serious people are about change when the practice is tried!
At this stage, it is important to introduce the concept of ‘cracks’ into the discussion.
It’s more than physical desires. He desperately wants something at the expense of all other considerations. Who really wants to give up something they want? Cracks reveal more about the real person than people would like to admit, so the point is this:
We have to be honest about our change of heart, we have to show people the truth, otherwise they will simply try to please us and say what they think we want to hear, we should encourage them to see that we all suffer in this way. to think as we fight the sin that happens in our lives. Only by confessing that we have a changing mindset can we really hope to begin to change the interior (through the power of the Spirit).
There’s more to follow.