Eighteen years have passed since the day of yes that my husband and I, anyway, had come the big day!Ufa! How much preparation, it took 8 months between engagement and wedding. We literally put our hands on the dough because my mother-in-law was making wonderful sandwiches and we went to help her shape the coxinha, the peas, the croquettes and all the delights. so then we received a lot of praise from the guests.
The cake our uncles gave us, the soft drinks were pure ostentation, as we bought 600ml bottles to put on the tables, wow!
- After my father-in-law’s friends.
- The waiters worked courtesy.
- The owners of a buffet lent us towels.
- Chair covers and dishes.
- We had a good discount on the flowers since the owner of the florist was from our church.
- This stage of the championship.
- You may already think it was a sticky wedding.
- With so many things borrowed.
- Won and made with our own hands.
- Well.
- I tell you that it wasn’t like this: it was beautiful.
- Happy.
- We were delighted to have invited all the churches in which he and I participated.
- All friends from the two companies we work for.
- All members of our family.
- Yes.
- The invitations went to the church murals.
- Published in their newsletters and read from the pulpits.
- We wanted to celebrate with God’s people.
- With our families.
- And with our friends.
I started with this story not to start out how exemplary we were in the way we had our marriage, We made a lot of mistakes in many areas, but to put a phrase that my husband always talks about when we talk about weddings and parties today: fortunately, we are married so long ago, there was none of that, of the industry created behind marriages. As in a film, we come to what really matters in this article, at its height, to what makes us think: how are the finances of his wedding. , little bride, do they conform to the biblical norm?Do you follow a biblical planning order?
I’ll give you some planning tips, preparations for the wedding day itself (oh, and I keep in mind that you marry a guy who professes the same faith as you, otherwise go see your pastor and have a good conversation with him first. ):
Step 1: the saying goes, anyone who wants a house. But deeper than that is the biblical ordinance of Genesis 2:24 “leave man, father and mother, and join his wife. ” Here two questions arise, one would be to have a home, to build a new home, united in one flesh, to know each other day after day, physically, emotionally and spiritually, without having the interference of others. Another point that is very relevant is that the new couple will no longer have funds from their parents when they get married (unless they are missionaries and the parents are one of the custodians of the ministry). Home support comes from the Lord through the husband’s work, not from the husband’s father or husband’s stepfather. If there is no good planning during the wedding preparations, you will already enter the marriage full of debt, and perhaps you already enter the statistics of divorces that arise due to financial problems. In fact, divorce should not even be considered by us Christians, however, due to the hardness of our hearts (Mt 19,8) we can hear this phrase there: ?? If that doesn’t work, split up. That we shouldn’t even think about ourselves!
Going back to the question of the house, many have doubts between buying or renting and it depends a lot on the amount reserved to invest in the entrance part of the property, if you choose to rent and invest the money you have in the payment and apply more monthly (with discipline for this), this is a great option, as this will make your money work for you and you will not pay interest to install the value of the property. But if you are not the type of person who is disciplined, it would be better to get financing, but start small, reserve the maximum amount for the down payment you can get, so that the benefits are lower and you do not deliberately trust the bank’s agents, since they work for profit, look for people in the financial field to advise. Also consider analyzing the distances between the sought-after property and the most frequent places: work, school/course, church, so they don’t spend too much on fuel or transportation.
Step 2: Financial planning. Do you know this couple from the church you consider an example ?, who leads a modest and balanced life, in which it is noticeable that there is good financial planning in the life of the couple (preferably that they do not already have children)?Well, if you come to his house, ask them to help him figure out how much they spend per month on the goods needed for life: market, water, electricity, internet, gas, property tax. These values vary from city to city, depending on the cost of Con these values in mind, it is already possible to get an idea of what you will need to separate per month into the cost budget that you may not have today as singles. Luke 14. 28 tells us that we should make plans, but we should not worry about them (Mt 6. 25). I have seen the hand of the Lord working in the lives of newlyweds who walk firmly in the presence of the Lord and with a heart willing to glorify him through their marriages. the Lord takes care of his own.
Step 3: The cult of marriage. You and your fiancé should reflect on what Will Be God’s Worship and Praise, praying for the blessings of this new family and it will also be a great opportunity for friends and family to be evangelized.
In particular, I believe that marriages should be performed in churches, because there is greater veneration and attention to what is preached.
I know that often the bride and groom choose to organize the wedding ceremony instead of the party to save money with the decoration and move of the guests, but honestly, that day Christ should be the center and his guests should see this in their two lives. Will honor and glorify God more and how his guests can pay more attention to Him.
Seasonal flowers can be a cheaper option, I know that many times we dream of one or the other flower, but today the union of the beauty of the flowers that the Father gives us with the creativity he gave to men has made wonderful ornaments. you want to hire an ornamental manufacturer that doesn’t fit your budget (and no problem if it doesn’t suit you), ask for help for this church sister who knows she’s able to decorate, the Internet is there with millions of creative ideas and very important values. Remembering, once again, Christ must be the center of this day!
Step 4: the dress. Ah! Dress. We dream a lot about this dress. Mine was as round as possible, I felt so beautiful! And my fiance thought so too, because that’s what he said the most when he saw me! Dear bride, dream of your dress! Dream that you enter the nave of the church and your handsome boyfriend is waiting for you smiling! But look, your dress doesn’t have to be the first, it doesn’t have to be embroidered with Swarovisk crystals, it doesn’t have to have the lace that comes from Paris. It should be as you dreamed it, adapted to your morphology, without extravagances, necklines and transparencies. There are dozens and dozens of stores, try several, be patient, enjoy this moment, which will be unique, until you find one that matches your taste and the modesty of a Christian woman (1Tm 2,9). And, very, very important, it fits in your pocket! Often the mother of the bride agrees to pay for the long dream dress of the daughter, or father, or aunt, or even you have collected a little money for a long time to be exuberant. And I know, but don’t rent from that fancy store just to show off, go to that store where you don’t give away anything and you can find one that you like and that doesn’t affect anyone to pay a hefty rental price. Also, stores usually already have the veil and accessory to borrow, check it out until you find one you like, don’t spend more on it. Negotiating the price is also a good thing, since it is Brazilian culture to leave a “fat”. courage to negotiate.
5th step: equip the house. Pray to the Lord that you have the basics in your home and save the money for them: bed, closet, kitchen cabinets, stove, refrigerator, washing machine, television, and shelf. Study the prices of new items and save money. Don’t rush to buy because people even tend to give these items away, but that’s not what should be in your heart when you invite groomsmen, for example, what should be in your heart is Proverbs verse 14 11, that is, people more mature in faith than you, who are free to give you advice on the path of marriage. Whether they have money for a gift or not, it shouldn’t even cross the bride and groom’s mind. Lately the number of people using detachments has increased and I see some really good items being exchanged. If you are ashamed or ashamed to talk to people for fear of what they will think of you, it is a sign that there is an idol in your heart, the desire to please men. Ask the Lord to break this idol and give you the strength to overcome this sin.
6th step: the party. Do you want to party? I have attended weddings that did not have a party, but the service was so focused on praising the Lord that it was not necessary. I also went to weddings where the deacons of the church served the cake and the guarana and their joy in helping to serve in the marriage of dear brothers was evident. I have also attended weddings where the entire church has volunteered to help. My heart beats with this, because my thoughts go straight to S 133. 1? Oh! How good and pleasant is it for siblings to live together? For me, this is one of the expressions of communion in the Church, where everyone joins in the service of others. But I also went to a party of those super parties that did not look like weddings of believers, just because the couple did not want to upset some guests and they ended up conforming to their standards (Cl 2. 8) and did not want to. Either the marriage was talked down to or because they wanted to keep up with the fashion, because today’s weddings MUST HAVE the x, y, z elements. Do you really need it? Do you really need it? Or the marriage can have the face, the form of the couple and the model that they live, according to Christ. I remember a friend who was invited to speak at a party, the first thing he said, “Do you think God is here? Do you think God appreciates what he sees here? We listened to the silence, we listened to the fearlessness of this brother and his sincerity in the exhortation, which in no way affected the friendship with the other brothers, on the contrary, it became stronger. If you want to organize a party for your guests, there is no sin. Noivinha, if you want to offer a moment of celebration with those who went to honor this unique moment, who dressed, who were present, do it! As long as you use 2 parameters: Is God glorified in every detail of this holiday? Do I have cash available to pay for these items?
7th step: the honeymoon. Another very complicated point, because in this article it could be divided so many times that the benefits can even be transferred after marriage, already beginning the lives of two with debts. Both have to decide what type of trip they like: beach, mountain, adventure. The question that traveling abroad is cheaper than in Brazil is relative and seasonal. Going somewhere just to post on social networks is an ostentation, wanting to show the other what you have and the other does not incite envy and jealousy in people. It is not wrong to publish the photos that we like the most, I say it because of the motivation of our hearts, the real reason that drives us to do this or that. So if your choice of honeymoon spot is flaunting, you’d be wrong! The choice must be in accordance with your fiancé, after all, he must also enjoy it. Follow the promotions of the sites, good things always appear and match the money you have reserved for it. The center of the honeymoon is the first moments for two, the place is secondary.
Ask the Holy Ghost to test his heart (Psalm 139. 23). Pray for every problem, wait for the Lord, be calm in solving each element, find someone to help you on this path that does not focus on your ‘I’, in what ?, remembering that we deserve nothing, is It God who reaches with his grace and mercy?Give him the freedom to exhort you as you turn away from the Word of God, let the cross of Christ point at you. Don’t forget your fiancé, he must be the first to be consulted at every point. , already exercise your care and your flock with you, like Christ and his church, do not decide anything without both agreeing.
I pray for every wife who reads this article, that their marriage focuses on the glorification of the Father, the preparations, and until death do them part.