As parents, we often struggle with this reality: the older our children grow, the heavier their choices become. We also realize that there is much evil in the world from which we want to protect our children. Given these facts, parents are often tempted to micromanage – to avoid making bad decisions. Parents may have good intentions, but they can become authoritarian when driven by fear. As a counselor, I want parents to focus on helping their children grow up in independent decision-making. At the end of the day, we want our children to have two things that go hand in hand:
We want our children to know if something that is said or done is good or bad; whether it’s in an email, on Facebook, in a text message, or on the playground. Children tend to think and rationalize anything in black and white. This prevents them from discerning the gray areas of life. Do children usually associate well with the people they love or are? and bad with people who don’t like them or who act rude. As a result, it can be difficult for them to discern the right action from the wrong and motivating one. Children need to understand that it is not about who said something (someone they like or don’t like), but whether what was said or done is good or bad. “What is said or done now is build or destroy?” This question gives our children a framework to judge different actions, behaviors and speeches, their own and those of others. Ask your children this question and you will teach them to examine their own behavior in light of what is good, fair, and kind. This question also teaches them to observe the influences their peers and adults can have on their decision making. This consideration will help you decide whether it makes sense to keep certain people in the company.
- As children learn to discern.
- Will there be times when they will have to say?No? For your wishes and those of others.
- It can be hard for adults to say no.
- So we hope it’s even harder for kids to say no!This puts them in social danger and forces them to fight their sinful desires.
- But saying no and defending what’s right can be learned through open and honest conversations.
- Playing roles well and helping kids think outside the box.
- As you teach your children.
- Ask the Lord to help you be patient with your failures.
- Remember.
- You can still hacerlo.
- No say no.
- Our children.
- Likewise.
- Will sometimes fail.
- We have to wait for that to happen.
- Perfection is not the goal.
- The goal is a judicial conversation that helps children know what to do when they encounter dark areas in life.
When we provide our children with a framework to discern their experiences, we help them guide their lives as lives lived in God’s world; in other words, a life lived with God’s designs for his mandate and mandate. Knowing that we live in God’s world provides a sense of certainness that we can trust in our Father and gives us the wisdom and clarity we need. His manners are really better than ours. When we live in the correct recognition of this, then obedience becomes a delight. And as we practice obedience, we grow in the likeness and character of Christ. The stronger a child’s character, the more insightful and prudent the child will be in situations that don’t seem clear.
As parents, we must shape this vision for our children and give them the opportunity to practice, reflect on, and experience it. When children are equipped with this kind of perception of the world, that living life as God demands is good because it is good ?Inevitably we will see them grow in character and integrity through the power of the Spirit. The pious values and ethics you help develop in your children will guide you in your choices. Will you sometimes experience temptations and confusion?but they will probably feel convinced and know that God offers them an escape route.
This approach is not about strongly arming our children with good character, but of shaping a true love for the Lord and his ways. It is a conscious effort to win our children for Christ. Doesn’t this require a commitment to a perception of the world and a lifestyle that never starts too early?And it’s never too late to start.
In business management, micromanagement is a management style in which a manager closely observes or supervises the work of his subordinates or employees. Micromanagement usually has a negative connotation. (Source: Reference. com) [N. T. ]
By: Julie Lowe. © Christian Board and Education ccef. org Foundation. Translated with permission. Source: An alternative to your children’s micromanagement.
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