Freedom
- I know your struggles because.
- A few years ago.
- They were my struggles.
- Not long ago.
- I was a young man.
- Fighting (and sometimes not fighting) lust.
- Pornography and everything else.
- There was a time when he wooed me and seduced me.
- Made me captive and yet today I can say that I am not interested in pornography.
- At least God freed me from the desire to enjoy it.
- I can understand your struggles and I also assure you that it is possible to find freedom.
Certain scriptures have contributed to my understanding of sex when I was young and thought about getting married and when I was newlyweds. They were instrumental in my determination not to succumb to the temptation of pornography.
The first is one of my favorite passages from the Bible. Proverbs 5. 18-19 says: “Be blessed your source, and rejoice with the woman of your youth, a deer of love, and a graceful gazelle. Sit your chest at all times; And always get drunk on his caresses?I love the sweetness of this passage. She calls a man to find joy, satisfaction and intimacy in the woman God has given him. He calls him to remember the joy he had when he and his wife were innocent and newlyweds, calling him to live this pleasure. You have no right to go anywhere else, you have no right to “drink in another cistern”, to use Solomon’s terminology. And why would I want that? The verse celebrates the gift. sex and its exclusivity.
When you marry, you will know that God has provided you with the woman of your youth, you must be intoxicated with your love, not with your body, not with the heart of another woman, or with an infinite series of women. Watch pornography, every time you surrender to lust, your ability to get drunk with your love, to find your joy and satisfaction, diminishes.
A few lines after this passage are these sober words: “For the ways of man are before the eyes of the Lord, and he considers all his ways; to the wicked, his iniquities will tie him up, and with the ropes of his Sin he will be stopped. Will he die for lack of discipline, and for his madness, lost, hesitant?(Pv 5. 21-23). Men who refuse to get drunk with the love of their wife, men who find pleasure in the bodies (or body images) of other women, commit acts of great madness. Their madness, their lack of discipline, their carefreeness for sin, leads them down paths of death. There is a consequence of your sin. When you fish before the wedding, do you bring all kinds of luggage to the wedding?all kinds of sexual history that impacts you and your relationship with your wife.
You may be eighteen or twenty years old and think that watching pornography from time to time, seeing images that feed your masturbation, will have no consequences. Wrong. Even now, you sin against God and against your wife or future wife. You accumulate sins, which will make it harder for you to be an effective leader and an effective lover. You don’t care about God’s grace.
Another verse, and I know, a little strange, is Genesis 26. 8. Remember that Isaac, like his father, traveled to another country and feared for his life. Like a coward, he denied his wife instead of risking his life. However, Abimelec looked out the window and “saw that Isaac was stroking his wife Rebekah. “Word? Caress? is obviously difficult to translate, and the versions of the Bible adapt it in slightly different ways. When I was young, I read a comment that rightly said that it could be translated as a joke. Abimelec looked out the window and saw Isaac and Rebecca doing something that made him realize that they were clearly neither brother nor sister; however, he knew Isaac’s character well enough not to accuse him of something immoral. Isaque and Rebekah were playing, they were flirting, no doubt taking advantage of a young love (though perhaps in an inappropriate place). In a way I expressed the kind of freedom I wanted to have with my wife. Freedom and openness that I knew I couldn’t have if we sinned sexually against each other.
The third verse is 1 Peter 3. 7, who commands: “Maris, you too, live the common life of the house, with discernment; and, considering your wife as the most fragile part, treat her with dignity, because together you are heirs of the same grace of life, not that her prayers are interrupted?Here I realized that my relationship with my wife was of great spiritual importance. If I do not treat my wife with dignity, my own prayers (not hers!) will be interrupted. As the head of my house, I must continue to grow spiritually and to do so I must be faithful in prayer. I’ve learned that I can only do this if I treat my wife the way she deserves to be treated. If I give myself to lust, pornography and other types of sexual sin, I would be devastated by my family. How could I bring this kind of pain and devastation to the people I love the most?
The last passage was 1 Timothy 5. 1. 2, which said, “Do not rebuke the old man; rather, she exhorts him as a father; young people and brothers alike; older women, such as mothers; girls, as sisters, in all purity?I see here the bond between women in pornography and God’s commandment that I treat all girls as sisters. How could I do this if I wanted them on the computer?And how could I anonymously look at the young people on the computer and then assume that I could extinguish that desire and treat the other girls in my life as sisters?Giving in to lust in one area would have an impact on all other areas. God commanded me not to see young women as sexual objects, but as sisters, I must treat them with all purity, in my heart, in my mind, in my life.
These verses, while they can form a somewhat eclectic collection, have deeply challenged me and readjusted my mind. I memorized them, reflected them, remembered them in my mind, lived for them. And he missed a desire to follow the lust. I knew it was God’s work because he worked on me through his Word, as he says. Instead, it gave me a great (and growing) love for her, and increased joy and satisfaction in my relationship with her. I wouldn’t want it any other way.
Conclusion
I encourage you to find a biblical basis for purity, a biblical basis for avoiding pornography. Some men may choose not to participate in pornography through an act of will. Some can do this by building walls of legalism and forcing themselves to live within those limits. But I am convinced that it is better to find freedom through the Word of God. We must fight sin with God’s truth; we need to replace the lies we want to believe with what God says is true. Perhaps some of the verses that God has used in my life will help you; maybe this will help you find others. But in any case, go to the Bible and find both the foundation of purity and wisdom that can help you at all times. Some of the saddest emails I have received in my online ministry come from women, who are older than you, and perhaps old enough to be your mother. Do they tell stories of total devastation? husbands involved in pornography when they were young and never bothered to quit. And here they are, all these years later, destroying themselves and their wives and families. The choices they made when they were young now threaten to destroy their families. These women, whose husbands have been called by God to get drunk on them for life, live with great gaps in their hearts, waiting for their husbands to come up and fill them. Could this be your wife at some point? The point is that God does not give young people a free pass to sin; that doesn’t allow you to live in any way for a while, and he escapes unscathed. Sin has consequences whether you sin at eighteen or eighty. Get away from your sin today. Seek freedom. Seek Christ.
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Did iProde staff, in another great job, download the eBook for free?Sexual Detox ?. Download, read, get help, spread, help others.
Don’t you need this war on sin? So one suggestion is that you use the material for group study.
Since there are 6 chapters, one suggestion is that they meet weekly, following:
1) Begin with prayers of praise and gratitude to God
2) Read one chapter of John per week.
3) Decorate a biblical text (per week) to help you in this mortification of the flesh. Suggestions: 1 Corinthians 10: 12,13; Romans 6:11, 12; Romans 8:13; James 1: 13-15; Santiago 4: 7-10.
4) Read a chapter of the eBook?Sexual detoxification?per week
5) Talk about the struggles of the week (share victories and defeats, encourage the brethren, and confess their sins to each other), and the chapter questions read in the book.
6) Pray by confessing sins and thanking for the undeserved love on the cross and for the shedd blood that has forgiven us all sins.
Some recommendations to make meetings healthy and stimulating
? Don’t make this meeting more embarrassing than it is to talk about it.
? Don’t judge your brother. That would be a lot of hypocrisy, if you won this week and he didn’t, and you feel superior to him, you’ll sin: FIERT, love your brother, help him!
? Don’t go into unnecessary details. Young man, you already have a lot of bad thoughts in mind and temptations printed on billboards and everywhere!The conversation continues, even if it is confessional, pure. Remember Ephesians 5: 3? Among you, sexual immorality, as well as any kind of impurity and greed, should not even be mentioned; because these things are not unique to the saints. ?
? The presence of a more mature person in the faith he has already gained in this field by the grace of God would be very good and encouraging.
It’s better to be two than one, because they’re paid better for their work. For if they fall, one raises his companion; unhappiness, however, so he is alone; For when he falls, there will be no one to lift him up; In addition, if two sleep together, they will warm up; But how hot can you get?If someone wants to defeat one of them, they will both resist; The triple rope does not break easily (Ecclesiastes 4: 9-12).