The excerpt below was taken with permission from the book: Help!My husband committed adultery, from Winston Smith, Counseling Series, Faithful Editor.
In marriage, two people are one. The Bible describes such a fact as?A single meat? (Genesis 2, 24). Adultery halves special intimacy and trust between husband and wife. That’s why people say things like, “Is my heart broken?”Do I feel like I’ve been broken?
- You’re probably embarrassed.
- Too.
- You feel fragile.
- Exposed.
- And ashamed of what your spouse has done.
- You’d do anything to hide the betrayal and get rid of those horrible feelings.
- Maybe you (or your friends) even have good reason to deny your feelings.
- Because God is your refuge and strength.
- You are reborn by expressing your pain.
- Or you may discover that your feelings take you away from the Christian purpose of forgiveness.
- However.
- Hiding or denying what you feel is a mistake.
Don’t be afraid to express how you feel. Let David’s words in Psalm 55 show you how to approach the Lord after a betrayal.
My heart trembles in my chest, the terrors of death invade me; fear and tremor invade me, and horror invades me. [?] Indeed, it is not an enemy that confronts me; If that were the case, I would bear it; nor is he the one who hates me and excels at me, for I would hide from him; but it’s you, my equal, my partner and my close friend. [?] Such a man laid his hands against those who had peace with him; corrupted your alliance. His mouth was softer than butter, but in his heart there was war; his words were sweeter than oil; however, they were drawained swords (Ps 55:4-5, 12-13, 20-21).
David’s honesty of his experience is not a sign of weakness or denial of his faith; is an example of faith. It is important to find the words to express your pain. This is a crucial way to approach God.
Expressing your pain to God allows you to agree with him on the horrors of betrayal. Every sin is a form of betrayal. Our betrayal of God is why Jesus had to go to the cross. Pain, anger, horror, and disbelief are totally appropriate reactions to what saddens God. The words of Psalm 55 are finally the words of God inspired by His Spirit. When you share your pain with God, you accept with Him that betrayal is a horrible sin.
As Jesus experienced betrayal during his time on this earth, you share your pain with someone who understands you, was rejected by his family, friends, and even by his followers, when you shout remember that the Spirit of Jesus cries with unexpressed groans according to your cry before God (Romans 8:26-27). His cries reach a sympathetic and empathetic ear. You’re not alone. Of course, whether your marriage survives or not, you will have to forgive and free yourself from bitterness; However, can’t you forgive a wound you don’t recognize having?You won’t even know what to forgive. Feel the foundation for forgiveness by being honest about how he was hurt.
I am a text message that your spouse was unfaithful. These four words are not up to the horror and suffering that you are going through. Betrayal affects your emotions in many ways. One moment you burn with rage, the next, fear takes over you and paralyzes your mind, all these reactions are normal to the horror of betrayal, but the decisions you make now will affect you and your family for the rest. Healing adultery is a long and difficult road, but you will find encouragement and direction to walk with God. Click the Edit button to edit this text.
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