I think I leave behind one phase of fatherhood, as I enter another, my youngest son is about to turn eight, which means that not only have we passed the steps of the baby and toddler, but we are also approaching the end of the child phase. At the same time, my eldest son was fourteen years old and a few months away from high school, all this change has led me to think about the fatherhood and new challenges that come to me, I found myself thinking about the many models that I have seen and admired over the years. What made these parents admirable? From these models, I described seven things a good father says.
I love you. Few things are more important to a child than knowing what their condition is with their parents. As I think of my childhood, I remember some friends who lived in uncertainty in their relationship with their parents, specifically with their father. hear words of love and approval. But I saw other children who had complete confidence in this love and approval. Often the difference was little more than three simple words that were often repeated: “I love you. “Men can be so petty, so proud and remember those words. there’s no valid reason for this. The more embarrassing this seems, the more urgent it is to say. From the parents I admire, I learned that a father needs to say “I love you” and needs to say it often.
- Let me kiss you.
- Even when I was a kid.
- I remember seeing two types of parents in my church.
- When a child fell and scratched his knees.
- I saw the parents react in two ways.
- Some took their children.
- Put them back on their feet.
- And told them to get over it: “It’s okay.
- Spend!?.
- They wanted their fragile children to grow stronger.
- There were other parents who raised their children.
- Hugged them.
- Showed them comfort.
- And said.
- “Let me give you a kiss that will pass.
- “They were parents who wanted their hard children to become more fragile.
- Of course.
- There are times when you should tell your child to move on.
- But there are many more opportunities to show love and concern amid those childhood falls and bruises.
- As well as in the midst of the most serious sins and mistakes that come with age.
- With the parents I admire.
- I have learned the courage to say.
- “Let me give you a passing kiss?”(although.
- Of course.
- The expression changes as children grow up!).
Come with me. There are many things in life that are better understood than taught. Often, the best way to educate a child is to let them participate in their lives. A father I admire taught me the distinction between being face to face with my children and being shoulder to shoulder. I saw this fatherhood next to my own father, who often took me with him on his travels or, better yet, in his work. It allowed me to see the value of fatigue on a hard day’s work and the value of developing relationships with customers, suppliers and many more. It allowed me to see that work is an extension of the rest of life, not a part of life that exists in itself. The parents I admire are the parents who say to their children, “Come with me” and welcome them into their daily lives.
Please forgive me. Every father sins against all his children and probably does it every day. Unfortunately, sin is as inevitable as death and taxes. Parents should have a habit of identifying their sins against their children and asking for forgiveness. However, looking back, I saw and heard this from very few parents. I know who constantly identifies his sin and seeks forgiveness for him. Considering my fourteen years of fatherhood, I see very little of that too. Practice seems much harder than theory. The good father is the one who humbly and carefully tells his son, “Please forgive me. “
You’re forgiven. Just as every father sins against all his children, every son sins against his father; the father who asks for forgiveness must also be willing to forgive him; every parent punishes his son from time to time, but many punish his children in the worst possible way?hold a grudge or let your child suffer while the father keeps forgiveness and reconciliation. Our children need to be forgiven and live the joy of reconciliation. I think of a father I know here, and what do I admire?Which has taught me that a good father not only says, “Is everything all right?” but always moves forward and says, “Are you forgiven?
Prions. Il is a father whom I admire only in the pages of the books he has written, of all the things he has written, what fascinates me the most is the way he prays with his children. a special moment of the week for each child, and at that moment he looks for his souls and prays with them, this seems an admirable practice. And at the rhythm of daily life, with all its ups and downs, he is also willing to guide you to seek the power of God, God’s help, the wisdom of God, here he teaches them the best and deepest dependence of God. the best and greatest help in the world. I learned from him that the good father is ready to say, “Let us pray. “
You can not. We live in an age where parents are known to be flamboyant in praising their children and assuring them, “You can do anything. ” But the good father assures his children that, most importantly, they cannot. I can not do it. One of the biggest challenges every Christian parent faces is showing their child that behavior is a reflection of the heart and that the child cannot simply decide to change their own heart. And this is where the Gospel becomes so precious, because it begins with this inability, it leads directly to the blood and righteousness of Christ, and therefore to the power of the Holy Spirit. The parents I love and admire are the parents who assure their children “You can’t do it” and who quickly direct you to the gospel and the Savior you do.
I hope to hear what you’ve learned from good parents, so basically following the same format, tell me what you heard a good parent say.