At the present stage of my life, I have the joy of serving women at different stages of life, circumstances, cultures and geographical regions, being single many of these women ask me, in public and in private, about celibacy and ministry between I always remember how important it is for us singles to engage with men and women at different stages of life and under circumstances (and vice versa!) Our communion with the whole body helps to cultivate empathy for brothers and sisters in Christ?who are alone in marriage or who have children in rebellion against Christ, or who are poor, or who face chronic diseases or?The list goes on. We are a family in the Lord Jesus, and this should shape the way we talk about Christian uniqueness.
Here are the questions women ask me most often. Pastor, as you preach the scriptures and think about applying the text, you may wonder if it addresses problems like these. If you address one of these issues a week for a while, think about how singles can be equipped!It may also be helpful to discuss specific topics with ministry officials in your church, organize a seminar for singles in Christian meetings, or write a pastoral article on topics related to family life in the Church.
- Two warnings.
- First.
- Many single men can ask the same questions; I focused on women’s problems simply because it reflects my current experience; secondly.
- I often hear singles say they don’t like others to assume that all singles are the same.
- Women.
- For example.
- Want to get married and/or have children.
- Not all single women feel safe being single.
- Not all single women think their celibacy affects their professional relationships.
- Etc.
- Single women are not monolithic.
- Nor are the questions.
- Wonder.
So here are the questions some single Christian women ask themselves
As a single person, have you ever felt something wrong with you?If so, how do you deal with that feeling?Are you ashamed to be single?(Apparently, I have a strong personality). Did you ever think it would be better to adjust your personality to attract a man who would otherwise be intimidated by you?Why does everyone assume I’m going through an identity crisis just because I’m single?Why would God appoint me as a caregiver (or anything else) and give me such strong desires to experience intimacy in marriage and motherhood and deprive myself of it again How will I feel satisfaction in life with the unfulested desires and aspirations that are close to my heart?
How often do you feel really lonely? What kinds of relationships do you cultivate in your life to avoid being alone? Will I always be sad about being single or is it temporary? What does it mean to be satisfied? in my celibacy? Can I be sad and happy at the same time? Why are vacation days so lonely for me and should I start having different vacation traditions as one person so they are not so horrible? What should I do when all my friends are married and have children and only talk about their children when we are together? Is it important to have single friends? How do you deal with sadness and envy when a friend is going through an engagement or marriage, or announces that she is pregnant, or talks about her sex life? How am I supposed to rejoice with those who rejoice? when they get engaged or pregnant, if they don’t cry with those who cry, like me? How often do you get angry about never being a mother? Is it okay to cry like this beforehand (like in your 20s and 30s) and how can you grieve in a healthy way? How do you deal with the fear of being alone in your old age with no one to take care of you?
What are the limits?healthy for a single person?What habits do you cultivate as a professional to make sure you are spiritually, emotionally, and physically healthy?What do you do when your boss takes advantage of your celibacy, forcing you to attend evening meetings, work on vacation, etc. ?(I heard this about most female bosses in the full-time ministry of labor. )Are you using your vacation differently as one person to ensure proper rest and renewal?Since you are not married, do you have someone to inform so that the work is not consummated in your life?When my married friends talk about everything they’re juggling, don’t they understand that I have to make all the important decisions for myself and handle all the logistics of life on my own?and do it all with one income?What should I do when I feel like a married colleague is acting inappropriately with me or another woman?Is it wrong for me, because I’m always in the office or traveling for work, approaching my colleagues (mostly married men) to meet my emotional needs?
How is a healthy friendship with a man?And, if so, how?Is it wrong for me to take the initiative with a man to seek a possible romantic relationship with him?If I act differently to try to find a husband, does that mean I don’t trust God’s sovereignty?What do you think of online dating? How can I trust God when I haven’t been dating for a decade?With regard to contemporary dating practices, what is forbidden for Christians?What’s it like to date an older girl’s Christianity?When we talk about quotation best practices, how do we distinguish between biblical principles and cultural preference?Being introverted, how do you find a man when, the older I am, the fewer places there are?To do it?
Is it possible that I am single because God punishes me for my sexual promiscuity in the past?Have you ever been tempted to make up for not having sex by giving in to something else?Like pornography, masturbation, soap operas, romantic comedies, soap operas. operas, food or exercise?What are the good disciplines for older boyfriends/married people to promote sexual purity?Can I take a long vacation with my boyfriend and share the same hotel room if we don’t have sex?Why yes or why not? Can we sleep in the same bed and/or spend the night together if we don’t have sex, why yes or why not?
If I am attracted to people of the same sex, how can I develop pious and intimate friendships with other sisters in Christ and how do I communicate with them about this aspect of my life?How can I develop pious friendships with brothers in Christ, singles?What things should I keep in mind in my dealings with my male colleagues in the department?When you’re in the ministry with a married man, do you act to include his wife when you contact him by email?, SMS, etc. How do I fit into my church family when I feel invisible every Sunday as a single elderly person with no children (or as a divorced woman or widow)?Why doesn’t the women’s ministry of my local church offer the Bible to study until 10 a. m. on Thursday morning?Why doesn’t my church address the challenges of single mothers and not think about how to make us feel welcome in social circles?
What is the gift of celibacy and how do you know if you have it?Why does our culture exalt marriage at the expense of celibacy?When God says, “Isn’t it good for man to be alone?”Only about marriage?What’s the difference for singles now that there will be no wedding in paradise?What does this imply in our relationships and how can we train ourselves to think biblically about being single in the light of new heaven and the new earth How can my suffering become spiritually productive?As a single woman committed to following Jesus, how can my commitment to sexual purity be spiritually productive among my non-Christian friends, who find this extremely strange?
There are many questions, I know, does your church’s ministry of education answer these questions for singles among you?
In all this, can we rely on the wisdom of our high priest, who embraced celibacy for the glory of his Father, who was tempted in all our forms, but without sin?In all conversations, may God prepare us to play the role of faithful stewards, joyfully pointing the church to the groom 😕