“Most of the old conflicts I’ve seen don’t happen among the elderly. Do they happen between an old man’s wife and an old man’s wife?
I was talking to a friend about being a pastor’s wife and I tried to understand the categorical statement she had made, right?I was wondering, could an old man’s wife cause so much conflict on the seniors’ team?I struggled with the idea and quickly realized that my friend’s comment was not an exaggeration. some cause problems and confusion.
Let me explain
The work of the elderly team is challenging and demanding; proposals are discussed, preaching is subject to criticism, and decisions are made that affect the souls of others; the women of the elderly often know what happens behind the scenes of the work of the elders. prayer, enthusiasm and fruit. They also notice long hours, passionate disagreements and strained relationships.
What happens when conflicts arise?What if no one supports your husband when he wants to make a change?
Not surprisingly, our husbands sometimes feel rejected or angry. As wives, we naturally sympathize with our husband and share his pain. When these circumstances arise, it is tempting to act in a way that worsens the already bad situation.
How can the wives of the elders avoid damaging the bodies of the elders of their local church?Here are 4 ways:
Talk candidly to your husband about the types of information you can and can’t handle. Are certain types of personalities able to retain? For the soul, to be close to those involved, without passing, but to pray and counsel in the heart, without being directly involved in the situation. Do other types of personalities give up? And don’t separate situations or people from the pain they’ve caused. Wisdom dictates where to draw the line.
Strive to live in peace with everyone and be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord. Make sure that no one is excluded from God’s grace; That no bitterness root germinates and causes disturbances, polluting a lot?(Hebrews 12:14-15). How can you work harder to have peace with your husband’s other elders?How can you be sure that it doesn’t?Does bitterness root, germinate and cause problems?Maybe your husband should leak the information you provide. Don’t make him know all the details about the discussions and the work of the elders. Do what is necessary to cultivate holy peace with others.
Recognize that your husband has a deeper friendship with these men than you do, he has more influence with them and they know his heart, if anything is to be said, it will be better received if it comes from him. you, so it’s not bad to face it. Such situations must remain confidential. If you are discussing this, it is advisable to choose a mentor or friend outside the church.
Even a seemingly subtle approach, like treating an old man with contempt or?Give ice? It’ll do more harm than good. Our prayer as wives of elders should echo Psalm 141:3-4 (?Lord, put a guard in my mouth; Look at the door of my lips. Don’t you let my heart become evil?) And Ephesians 4:32 (?Be kind and compassionate to one another, do you forgive one another as God forgave you in Christ?).
Respond kindly if your husband chooses to talk about something that hurts him. Proverbs 15. 1 says: “The calm answer deferetes fury, but the harsh word arouses anger. “We can create painful feelings in our husband if we react harshly. For example, exclaiming, “Who thinks I should speak to you like this?” reveals a callous heart, resulting in a stern response. On the other hand, speaking: “I realize how difficult it was. I am sorry. I’d like to pray, for both of us now, does it reveal a benevolent heart that translates into a kind answer. Each church will benefit from its peace efforts.
Brethren, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, I ask you all to agree on what you say, that there may be no division among you; Rather, that everyone is united in a thought and an opinion?(1 Corinthians 1,10). It’s a deep prayer that all senior teams need. Some other verses about prayer for their elders may include 1 Peter 3. 8, 2 Corinthians 13. 11, Ephesians 4. 1-6, and Romans 12. 16. Pray diligently and frequently.
Do the wives of the elders play a unique role in encouraging their elders’ husbands?Be confidential in ministerial situations while maintaining peace at home when the elderly have struggles or conflicts. May our responses promote peace and joy in the hearts of our husbands, among the elders’ team, and in each congregation for the glory of the Savior we share.
By: Nikki Daniel. © The Gospel Coalition. Website: thegospelcoalition. org. Translated with permission. Source: 4 Ways for Seniors? Wives can avoid fueling conflicts
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Leandro Pasquini. Reviewed by William Teixeira.